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So, this girl, 22, came over to my place yesterday, we had dinner, talked for a bit and then eventually slept together 3 times that night. The problem: on the 3rd time the condom was broken after cumming.
This girl is cute and has very little signs of problems initially but I have recently discovered more and more red flags. First, she is a smoker and that's almost always a non starter for me, but can be ignored in a hook up. Second, Ive found out she has past physical abuse and at one time was homeless, which is something I don't think I have the experience to handle. Third, she is adamant about wanting a relationship and baby with me, and even asking me to move out of the state with her and her sister. Fourth, she explicitly lied to me saying she was on birth control. I am probably overly cautious, but I only sleep with women with a condom and birth control. Having only a condom is never enough protection imo. Fifth, she quit her job and says she rather sell edibles than look for a real job. Overall, it's clear and clearer to me she's no who I'd want to spend my rest of my life with, but I worry I may be put in a difficult position of having a kid.
She agreed to take plan B, but not until 24 hours later and only after I made it seem like I wanted kids with her, just not unexpectedly or now (I feel a little shitty lying, but I feel she's trapped me in a situation in which she is almost holding me potentially hostage after lying being on birth control initially.
The good thing is she's moving out of state. So I can wait things out. I think the odds are low that she's pregnant, but I'm at the point that wouldn't doubt her pretending to be pregnant to keep me around. I have caught her in a lie more and more recently.
What odds do you think she's pregnant, how should I break things off?
Any advice for handling this situation smoothly. My intuition is not to break things off abruptly because of the false pregnancy scare tactic I have a gut feeling she'd attempt, especially how she knew how worried I was about pregnancy and have stated that my responsibility as a father would make me care for the child if we had one.
This girl is cute and has very little signs of problems initially but I have recently discovered more and more red flags. First, she is a smoker and that's almost always a non starter for me, but can be ignored in a hook up. Second, Ive found out she has past physical abuse and at one time was homeless, which is something I don't think I have the experience to handle. Third, she is adamant about wanting a relationship and baby with me, and even asking me to move out of the state with her and her sister. Fourth, she explicitly lied to me saying she was on birth control. I am probably overly cautious, but I only sleep with women with a condom and birth control. Having only a condom is never enough protection imo. Fifth, she quit her job and says she rather sell edibles than look for a real job. Overall, it's clear and clearer to me she's no who I'd want to spend my rest of my life with, but I worry I may be put in a difficult position of having a kid.
She agreed to take plan B, but not until 24 hours later and only after I made it seem like I wanted kids with her, just not unexpectedly or now (I feel a little shitty lying, but I feel she's trapped me in a situation in which she is almost holding me potentially hostage after lying being on birth control initially.
The good thing is she's moving out of state. So I can wait things out. I think the odds are low that she's pregnant, but I'm at the point that wouldn't doubt her pretending to be pregnant to keep me around. I have caught her in a lie more and more recently.
What odds do you think she's pregnant, how should I break things off?
Any advice for handling this situation smoothly. My intuition is not to break things off abruptly because of the false pregnancy scare tactic I have a gut feeling she'd attempt, especially how she knew how worried I was about pregnancy and have stated that my responsibility as a father would make me care for the child if we had one.