Lately, I've been giving some serious thought to giving up women and dating for good. I feel like I'm slowly losing hope and faith of anything ever changing or improving in this regard.
Sometimes I feel like my ship has already sailed and that it's too late for me now because of my age--57. There are so many damn factors to take into account why I've had continuous problems trying to implement many of the articles and forum topics.
As negative as this rant may sound, I'm still looking for positives and solutions that will help me get out of this rut. Yes, I've read the articles about older men dating younger women and still wrestle with issues that it covers. Some of my perceived issues with dating much younger women are sexual performance and having children.
I'm trying not to display a dismal life story here but I was a late bloomer for a number of reasons. I had a huge drug and alcohol problem years ago and finally got my act together by the time I turned 27. Just before I got off the drugs at age 25, I lost my only daughter to the child welfare system. I never saw her again after I turned 33. I went back to college and got a four year degree, got married and divorced twice, and stayed with the same employer for 25 years--although I don't have much to show for it (market collapse, some bad financial choices, etc.). And after all this, I have zero assets--no house, no condo, just a car, lol.
In early 2013, I discovered Girls Chase and I've been hooked ever since. I still truly believe that a majority of the articles here are useful and valuable. The game changing Girls Chase article for me was "Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party or Drink." I'm a recovering addict who has managed to stay clean and drug/alcohol free for over 31 years. So I was excited about the things that Chase talked about here and elsewhere.
In addition to my day job, I'm also a part time working musician playing in several bands at night. In a lot of respects, I'm living my dreams regarding the music scene and having way more success than I ever did when I was in my 20's. I've been in one of the bands for over 12 years and played all over Southern California. Okay, so there's all the background information laid out.
Some of the realizations I'm coming to are: most guys my age have been married for a while and have children and grandchildren and about half of them are in worse shape physically and health-wise than myself. The single men around my age (or divorced ones) just let themselves go (drink a lot, smoke a lot, eat a lot, etc.) and just settle for being single until they drop dead. The point here being, that there are not many men my age who would make good mentors for many of the things talked about here at Girls Chase.
Playing in clubs the past 14 years I've pretty much seen it all, lol. So I have ZERO interest in women at clubs, bars, parties. etc. and ZERO interest in night game. I've never been married to, been in a relationship with, or lived with a women who drank alcohol or did drugs during the past 31 years. Why the fuck should I settle for more magnified and unnecessary drama?
I just feel like I'm looking for a needle in a haystack regarding dating women and where to find them. I've read almost every "day game" article I can find here and tried but life takes over sometimes. I've been so busy with work and bands that I forget to look ahead and plan.
So the takeaway for the rest of you here in your 20's, 30's and 40's, get your shit together with everything here at Girls Chase! It's an invaluable resource that is truly priceless. None of this existed (at least not to this degree) until after about 2008 or so. I have found many of the articles here to be life-changing and game-changers. Don't end up like me--years later regretting not taking enough action, chances and healthy risks. The only thing I've been doing the past year "action-wise" is looking for a better job--still at it, lol.
Anyway, I've always appreciated the support and dialogue here in the Girls Chase Forums. Thanks for listening.
P.S.: Yes, I'm a huge Iron Maiden fan. Is that the problem? Lol..
Sometimes I feel like my ship has already sailed and that it's too late for me now because of my age--57. There are so many damn factors to take into account why I've had continuous problems trying to implement many of the articles and forum topics.
As negative as this rant may sound, I'm still looking for positives and solutions that will help me get out of this rut. Yes, I've read the articles about older men dating younger women and still wrestle with issues that it covers. Some of my perceived issues with dating much younger women are sexual performance and having children.
I'm trying not to display a dismal life story here but I was a late bloomer for a number of reasons. I had a huge drug and alcohol problem years ago and finally got my act together by the time I turned 27. Just before I got off the drugs at age 25, I lost my only daughter to the child welfare system. I never saw her again after I turned 33. I went back to college and got a four year degree, got married and divorced twice, and stayed with the same employer for 25 years--although I don't have much to show for it (market collapse, some bad financial choices, etc.). And after all this, I have zero assets--no house, no condo, just a car, lol.
In early 2013, I discovered Girls Chase and I've been hooked ever since. I still truly believe that a majority of the articles here are useful and valuable. The game changing Girls Chase article for me was "Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party or Drink." I'm a recovering addict who has managed to stay clean and drug/alcohol free for over 31 years. So I was excited about the things that Chase talked about here and elsewhere.
In addition to my day job, I'm also a part time working musician playing in several bands at night. In a lot of respects, I'm living my dreams regarding the music scene and having way more success than I ever did when I was in my 20's. I've been in one of the bands for over 12 years and played all over Southern California. Okay, so there's all the background information laid out.
Some of the realizations I'm coming to are: most guys my age have been married for a while and have children and grandchildren and about half of them are in worse shape physically and health-wise than myself. The single men around my age (or divorced ones) just let themselves go (drink a lot, smoke a lot, eat a lot, etc.) and just settle for being single until they drop dead. The point here being, that there are not many men my age who would make good mentors for many of the things talked about here at Girls Chase.
Playing in clubs the past 14 years I've pretty much seen it all, lol. So I have ZERO interest in women at clubs, bars, parties. etc. and ZERO interest in night game. I've never been married to, been in a relationship with, or lived with a women who drank alcohol or did drugs during the past 31 years. Why the fuck should I settle for more magnified and unnecessary drama?
I just feel like I'm looking for a needle in a haystack regarding dating women and where to find them. I've read almost every "day game" article I can find here and tried but life takes over sometimes. I've been so busy with work and bands that I forget to look ahead and plan.
So the takeaway for the rest of you here in your 20's, 30's and 40's, get your shit together with everything here at Girls Chase! It's an invaluable resource that is truly priceless. None of this existed (at least not to this degree) until after about 2008 or so. I have found many of the articles here to be life-changing and game-changers. Don't end up like me--years later regretting not taking enough action, chances and healthy risks. The only thing I've been doing the past year "action-wise" is looking for a better job--still at it, lol.
Anyway, I've always appreciated the support and dialogue here in the Girls Chase Forums. Thanks for listening.
P.S.: Yes, I'm a huge Iron Maiden fan. Is that the problem? Lol..