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I've been thinking in the past few years and even months why missing out on the social experience of college haunts me. It really gets me that my coworkers right now talk about how awesome their college days were too while mines sucked. Even when some of my dates talk about it, it sucks.
I went the community college and transfer type of route for university meaning I missed out on dorm life and all of that. Now I am heading into my late 20s as a worker and I still haunted by what I missed out on. I took some time aside a few days ago to write it all out and here is what I came up with.
That college was as good as it got for social experiences and social life.
You are surrounded by thousands of people around your own age with almost little responsibility. Everyone is packed into that environment to socialize and "explore". Somehow, I missed out on all of that. I found that despite my best efforts, I could not get a decent social life going for college and was always on the outside looking in.
College was the time to find your crew, friends, and group to have fun and memorable social experiences with. I never got that and now I feel like it is too late.
That people in general after a certain age just kind of suck socially, like after 22 or so.
I feel like people at the 18-22 age range in college, really 18 and 19 if anything, were at that phase of exploring socially and making new friends. After that age, everyone has already had their experiences and goes into settle down mode. I am in my late 20s with the mindset socially of someone who is 18-21, wanting to expand as much as possible, but most people around my age are all about family and kids or at least slowing down.
It's like even if I make it, I wish everyone around my age was in a similar situation and mindset. Sure they are set financially but they are free of other responsibilities and want to party around, socializing, expand their social network, and have fun.
The gut feeling I will never find my tribe.
The feeling that I will never find my community of girls and guys to mix with and have fun social experiences with. It really stabs at me almost every week seeing how others already have their social circles set and ready to go.
The feeling that I would have to overcompensate in a big way now.
Like the kids who had their social experiences and peaked in college can settle into a 9 to 5 at a nice company and live their lives.
The social life and dating worries are behind them, they can settle into a stable relationship, 9 to 5, and a happy situation. Yet I feel like guys who missed out on college have to overcompensate in a big way that means compromising their career and such.
While the frat boy natural can climb the corporate ladder and get a prestigious job, the late bloomer is not mentally ready for that and cannot commit to that full-term. He has to find a way to take some time off to rehash that or fix that.
Any thoughts though?
Like where do I even begin?
I went the community college and transfer type of route for university meaning I missed out on dorm life and all of that. Now I am heading into my late 20s as a worker and I still haunted by what I missed out on. I took some time aside a few days ago to write it all out and here is what I came up with.
That college was as good as it got for social experiences and social life.
You are surrounded by thousands of people around your own age with almost little responsibility. Everyone is packed into that environment to socialize and "explore". Somehow, I missed out on all of that. I found that despite my best efforts, I could not get a decent social life going for college and was always on the outside looking in.
College was the time to find your crew, friends, and group to have fun and memorable social experiences with. I never got that and now I feel like it is too late.
That people in general after a certain age just kind of suck socially, like after 22 or so.
I feel like people at the 18-22 age range in college, really 18 and 19 if anything, were at that phase of exploring socially and making new friends. After that age, everyone has already had their experiences and goes into settle down mode. I am in my late 20s with the mindset socially of someone who is 18-21, wanting to expand as much as possible, but most people around my age are all about family and kids or at least slowing down.
It's like even if I make it, I wish everyone around my age was in a similar situation and mindset. Sure they are set financially but they are free of other responsibilities and want to party around, socializing, expand their social network, and have fun.
The gut feeling I will never find my tribe.
The feeling that I will never find my community of girls and guys to mix with and have fun social experiences with. It really stabs at me almost every week seeing how others already have their social circles set and ready to go.
The feeling that I would have to overcompensate in a big way now.
Like the kids who had their social experiences and peaked in college can settle into a 9 to 5 at a nice company and live their lives.
The social life and dating worries are behind them, they can settle into a stable relationship, 9 to 5, and a happy situation. Yet I feel like guys who missed out on college have to overcompensate in a big way that means compromising their career and such.
While the frat boy natural can climb the corporate ladder and get a prestigious job, the late bloomer is not mentally ready for that and cannot commit to that full-term. He has to find a way to take some time off to rehash that or fix that.
Any thoughts though?
Like where do I even begin?