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Marty's topic on speed dating reminds me of something related. I don't debate the basic premise of the article, that Cold Approach Works Better Than Anything Else. Probably.
But let's take a closer look at the part where it speaks about social circles and namely Meetup.com.
I'm certainly not the main guy of any Meetup group, but from time to time I schedule to attend a few, given the topic is interesting. European city with quite a bit of action, there are a few interesting ones, even if you don't care about meeting someone. And there are also groups with the sole purpose of letting people from different countries to socialize with each other. As for girls, there are quite a few if not most in their early 20s.
For the sake of discussion, does it really matter to you if there are one, two, or five attractive girls in a meeting if you are the only player around? (Unless you want to go home with more than one of them, it doesn't matter. And I'm not that advanced yet. Are you?) Not to mention everyone's attractive is different.
My pet peeve is, what I miss from the article (though Chase seemed to have a totally different experience with the events to bother) that these are friendly, social environments where even beta chodes have the opportunity to interact with nice girls in friendly environment. So how do you distinguish yourself? How do you show your seductive and sexual side as well, besides your social side? (By the terminology of 60 Years of Challenge, you are supposed to be social, seductive, and sexual. All three.)
I don't do cold approaches as a sport (it's more like part of my lifestyle, let's say), but at least I have some successes with it. If I were to go out to do cold approaches as a job for two hours, I would get more results with it than by going to two-hour meetup. How to make the most out of these meetups I'm going to anyways? (So answers like you should go and do cold approaches instead don't count.)
I'm sure there is a definitive answer to this question in the form of an article on Girls Chase, but there are overwhelmingly so many articles on the site. Heck, the search engine recommended me this very article when I tried to search for an answer.
But let's take a closer look at the part where it speaks about social circles and namely Meetup.com.
Chase said:Here's an example: when you go out with your social circle, you maybe meet one or two new vaguely attractive women once every fifteen or twenty outings, if your circles are like the average guy's circles. Maybe you have better circles, or even amazing circles, where you're meeting a few attractive new women each time
Chase said:Or, you can become the main guy for a big activity group, like the ones on Meetup.com, but those, too, attract only a certain kind of person: generally, people in their late 20s to early 40s who are single, bored, moderately attractive, and somewhat professional. Okay people the lot of them, but rarely anything especially extraordinary
Chase said:Maybe I haven't bothered to spend the years required to build up an amazing social circle with high caliber women, or maybe there's some secret to accessing amazing women via social circle I haven't stumbled on yet.
I'm certainly not the main guy of any Meetup group, but from time to time I schedule to attend a few, given the topic is interesting. European city with quite a bit of action, there are a few interesting ones, even if you don't care about meeting someone. And there are also groups with the sole purpose of letting people from different countries to socialize with each other. As for girls, there are quite a few if not most in their early 20s.
For the sake of discussion, does it really matter to you if there are one, two, or five attractive girls in a meeting if you are the only player around? (Unless you want to go home with more than one of them, it doesn't matter. And I'm not that advanced yet. Are you?) Not to mention everyone's attractive is different.
My pet peeve is, what I miss from the article (though Chase seemed to have a totally different experience with the events to bother) that these are friendly, social environments where even beta chodes have the opportunity to interact with nice girls in friendly environment. So how do you distinguish yourself? How do you show your seductive and sexual side as well, besides your social side? (By the terminology of 60 Years of Challenge, you are supposed to be social, seductive, and sexual. All three.)
I don't do cold approaches as a sport (it's more like part of my lifestyle, let's say), but at least I have some successes with it. If I were to go out to do cold approaches as a job for two hours, I would get more results with it than by going to two-hour meetup. How to make the most out of these meetups I'm going to anyways? (So answers like you should go and do cold approaches instead don't count.)
I'm sure there is a definitive answer to this question in the form of an article on Girls Chase, but there are overwhelmingly so many articles on the site. Heck, the search engine recommended me this very article when I tried to search for an answer.