The Approach
I notice this blonde girl in yoga pants standing around on the sidewalk, close to the gym, looking at her phone intermittently. I walk up to her:
We make eye contact, and are holding it:
Now listen here boys, i cant remember if we broke eye contact and then she shook her head, or if we held eye contact while she shook her head. Regardless, there was a period of time after I delivered the opener, but before she shook her head, where it seemed like she was considering what to say.
Anyways, she goes back to looking at her phone, with three fingers covering her lips (thinking or hiding a smile?).
I am standing there, looking around and wondering how to counteract this lack of investment. Finally, after what seems like 200 dog years of silence and tension, I ask her:
My Thoughts
I've read Chase's rebuff articles. This is a soft non-verbal rebuff, right?
I feel like there was a slight window to do something to influence her upcoming rebuff when we were looking at each other, but she hadn't shook her head yet.
There was also the option to do something immediately after she shook her head. What should I have done?
Unfortunately I didn't react quick enough and let the silence hang too long. Does the long silence change my strategy?
I'm confused, because her rebuff was non-verbal, so my reply should have been non-verbal as well. But it seemed like she was about to crack. So should I have verbally teased her about it?
There's also the consideration of me doing something to ratchet up the tension she's creating.
All help is appreciated! What would you have done and why?
I notice this blonde girl in yoga pants standing around on the sidewalk, close to the gym, looking at her phone intermittently. I walk up to her:
Me: [waves to get her attention]
We make eye contact, and are holding it:
Me: you single? [said in a gruff voice, with a downtone]
Her: [holding eye contact with an amused, slightly incredulous look on her face] *shakes her head*
Now listen here boys, i cant remember if we broke eye contact and then she shook her head, or if we held eye contact while she shook her head. Regardless, there was a period of time after I delivered the opener, but before she shook her head, where it seemed like she was considering what to say.
Anyways, she goes back to looking at her phone, with three fingers covering her lips (thinking or hiding a smile?).
I am standing there, looking around and wondering how to counteract this lack of investment. Finally, after what seems like 200 dog years of silence and tension, I ask her:
Me: so you were just at the gym?
Her: I'm waiting for my uber [dismissive tone]
Me: Same [walks off]
My Thoughts
I've read Chase's rebuff articles. This is a soft non-verbal rebuff, right?
I feel like there was a slight window to do something to influence her upcoming rebuff when we were looking at each other, but she hadn't shook her head yet.
There was also the option to do something immediately after she shook her head. What should I have done?
Unfortunately I didn't react quick enough and let the silence hang too long. Does the long silence change my strategy?
I'm confused, because her rebuff was non-verbal, so my reply should have been non-verbal as well. But it seemed like she was about to crack. So should I have verbally teased her about it?
There's also the consideration of me doing something to ratchet up the tension she's creating.
All help is appreciated! What would you have done and why?