So i'll try to summarize this as best I can. Met a girl about a year and a half ago on a dating app hit it off great I'm still a newbie and somehow managed to hit on the first date. We proceeded to go on a date every week and each time had sex, whenever I felt that she was hinting at a relationship I would dodge the issue then finally summer was ending and I felt she was getting a bit clingy. As nicely as I could (cuz shes genuinely a cool girl) I told her that I couldn't continue this because I was starting the semester back, I felt that she wanted to be serious and I didn't want to string her along. She said it was cool and that she just wanted fun too. I thought this was the end of it then the semester ends and she texts me asking if i want to mess around again.
This goes on till the end of summer once more and I cut her off again cuz of school. Now cue present day, I hit her up once more she says shes down. We go out I hit again, cool everything going smoothly. She flakes on the next meeting but I dont think much of it cuz she never flaked on me before, and even the week prior when she thought she may not make it she was freaking out saying "she likes to eat her cake and have it eaten too", I still have my eye open though. Now where I think I messed up. The plan was to just grab something to eat then sex, she instead asks if I want to go to a comedy club and I am like sure why not, ive gone on multiple dates with her all end in sex im not tripping.
Well I should have because a lot of the comics bits were about side chicks. One comic mentioned if a guy brought you here today you're the side chick, a female comedian mentions she doesn't give sex out for free and you should never do that. Then when we are finally leaving one of the comedians says, "yall have a great night youre a beautiful black couple! I try to shrug it off but I noted that she laughed at everything but the jokes about being a side chick etc. Now normally we go to the same location to have sex cuz its her neighborhood im not from there but this time she led me straight to her place said it was fun etc. To hit her back up again. I was frustrated but didnt know what the hell to do. Its been a few days since, we dont normally text regardless so of course I havent texted her since but you guys think shes gone or can I fix this, I would like to keep her if possible but not if it means I have to have a relationship.
This goes on till the end of summer once more and I cut her off again cuz of school. Now cue present day, I hit her up once more she says shes down. We go out I hit again, cool everything going smoothly. She flakes on the next meeting but I dont think much of it cuz she never flaked on me before, and even the week prior when she thought she may not make it she was freaking out saying "she likes to eat her cake and have it eaten too", I still have my eye open though. Now where I think I messed up. The plan was to just grab something to eat then sex, she instead asks if I want to go to a comedy club and I am like sure why not, ive gone on multiple dates with her all end in sex im not tripping.
Well I should have because a lot of the comics bits were about side chicks. One comic mentioned if a guy brought you here today you're the side chick, a female comedian mentions she doesn't give sex out for free and you should never do that. Then when we are finally leaving one of the comedians says, "yall have a great night youre a beautiful black couple! I try to shrug it off but I noted that she laughed at everything but the jokes about being a side chick etc. Now normally we go to the same location to have sex cuz its her neighborhood im not from there but this time she led me straight to her place said it was fun etc. To hit her back up again. I was frustrated but didnt know what the hell to do. Its been a few days since, we dont normally text regardless so of course I havent texted her since but you guys think shes gone or can I fix this, I would like to keep her if possible but not if it means I have to have a relationship.