Cumming quick

Hey guys.

I've been trying for a few years now to control when I orgasm, and I'm seriously running out of ideas. The other day, I had bareback sex with a girl 5 times, and even on the 5th time, I came within 20 seconds. I wanted to keep trying, but she wasn't interested after the fifth time cleaning her pussy of my cum.

This is seriously lowering my sexual confidence and general confidence with girls too, because every single time I have sex, I blow within 30 seconds. Every damn time. It's frustrating because I can't get enough pleasure myself for fucking her for half a minute, and and I can't please them enough either.

Really would appreciate some advice for dealing with this issue, from people who can better control themselves.

Thanks!

Lord Byron-

Have you read this article?:

5 Sex Pro Tips to Last Longer in Bed

Chase

Hi Chase, thanks for the response.

Yes, I read your article on the 5 suggestions listed. And have experimented with all the options you suggested.

The suggestion I have paid the most heed to is the last one, about totally immersing myself in the sensations, so that I'm not thinking about cumming or how good it will feel, but rather how my body feels with a woman.

I've tried this for months, and have made little to no improvement.

How did you learn to immerse yourself fully in the experience?

Also, would you recommend using visualization as a method of performing better? I thought of this today, and it makes sense that if I put myself mentally in the position of fucking a girl for a long time, then perhaps that will build confidence in the bedroom and translate into the real world.

Like I said, I'm open to vigorously trying any suggestions you have, because this issue has been plaguing me since I first had sex, and I am ready to fully take control of it, once and for all.

Byron

Okay,

Two things :

- Next time you are having Sex, try out Prone bone position. It's not gonna help you last longer, but it will be painful and pleasurable for the girl. So even if you come quick, just keep banging her in this position again and again.

- There's an article 'How to eat a girl out, tips from ex porn star' something like that. The author have a ebook for lasting longer. So if everything else fails, you can give it a try.

Hope it helps man.

This will make very, very hard for you to cum to the extent that it could backfire completely and you'd have to fuck a girl for hours to cum.

It's called edging. Just masturbate normally and when you're 90% there take your hands off your dick and flex your urethra as hard as you can as not to cum. Wait, repeat again as many time as you can before cumming.

When you get a pretty good control with this you can hold it even while stroking and you'll be able to get an orgasm even with no cum. I read it in some Kama Sutra and shit goddamn works.

(Downside is that it takes me quite some time to get used to a girl blowjob/pussy to "allow" myself to cum. But after you get used to it, it comes back down to a level of normality.)

Big Daddy said:

When you get a pretty good control with this you can hold it even while stroking and you'll be able to get an orgasm even with no cum. I read it in some Kama Sutra and shit goddamn works.

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Hey,

Sounds interesting, Cumming without Cumming. What is it and how to perform it.

Big Daddy said:

This will make very, very hard for you to cum to the extent that it could backfire completely and you'd have to fuck a girl for hours to cum.

It's called edging. Just masturbate normally and when you're 90% there take your hands off your dick and flex your urethra as hard as you can as not to cum. Wait, repeat again as many time as you can before cumming.

When you get a pretty good control with this you can hold it even while stroking and you'll be able to get an orgasm even with no cum. I read it in some Kama Sutra and shit goddamn works.

(Downside is that it takes me quite some time to get used to a girl blowjob/pussy to "allow" myself to cum. But after you get used to it, it comes back down to a level of normality.)

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Hey Big Daddy,

That sounds really interesting! How long did it take you to develop that kind of control? I'm going to start trying this tonight!

Do you feel like you have the ability now to essentially cum on command, just through flexing your pelvic muscles?

Thanks for the response!

If you're cumming within 20 seconds on the 5th time of sex that sounds like a legitimate medical problem to me. It might be worth consulting a medical specialist. Sometimes by the 2nd or 3rd time I struggle to get off at all. I think its a very rare man that could even orgasm 5 times in the course of a normal sexual encounter, much less prematurely ejaculate on the 5th time.

Have you tried using special condoms? http://www.durexindia.com/products/cond ... -pleasure/
I bought these by accident several years ago and absolutely hated them because they made my dick numb, but that might be exactly what you need.

Absolute worst case scenario if you know you are going to cum in 30 seconds you might want to explore other options with the girl. IE can you use your hand/mouth to get them off before you get inside them? That won't solve the premature ejaculation problem, but at least they will be sexually satisfied which should boost your confidence and self-esteem.

Just a few thoughts anyway

Lord Byron said:

That sounds really interesting! How long did it take you to develop that kind of control? I'm going to start trying this tonight!

Do you feel like you have the ability now to essentially cum on command, just through flexing your pelvic muscles?

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Sorry I missed you, been busy.

I would say that about 8 weeks or so I noticed that I could flex my dick in a concrete club nothing would come out of it (if I was not thrusting; if a girl with pornstar-level blowjob is going lighting fast I can't, and probably don't want to, contain myself).

I can't come at will if I'm fucking a girl for the first time, for the most part. By the 5-10th time with the same girl, with my rhythm down, I can forever stay in the 80% range to cum and not be afraid, which makes it easier to cum whenever I feel like it.