Socializing  The way to have more fun in socializing

I didn't find amusing in talking much
But I really into challenge things like sports, game(doesn't matter how stupid), creative thing, business or anything that can sense a fight or contain complicate system or hard to get good.
I found myself lack of passion, willpower to socialize  I try to fix

What is fun,amuse in socialize for you guys ?? I’m introvert who like to play sport, musician(lead vocal and guitarist in band). Now I’m in internship and like to work (mechanical engineer so it work in field not in desk). For me when socialize + do fun activity (ex. Play chess + shit talk) is work fine, But I still don’t understand much. What do you consume in socialize ?? ( a fun? connection?)
I don’t have problem with anxiety and normally can do socialize just fine. But hardly find interest in people (except girl I want to bang)

And what to do to have fun in socializing.

Thanks man,

PS.
(I try more asshole, tease more bant more, shit talk more and it kinda fun lol)
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=20986 -- this guy is like me

Well.....if you're not super into socializing with each other people, except for girls, then just socialize and flirt with girls haha.

JacobPalmer said:

Well.....if you're not super into socializing with each other people, except for girls, then just socialize and flirt with girls haha.

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lol I would like to but I just flirting beginner and thinking that +social skill = +flirting skill
Plus, I 'm in a situation that has to full-time socialize (intern with 6-8 collegian) so I think it good opportunities to increase my social skill.
My idea is if I want to learning and sticking in social skill, first I have to make sure that I have some fun and like it.

I try to make it hardcore challenging(like sport) imagine that it will be instant change my social perspective and lead to jet-speed improvement but In real situation is kinda friendly (or sleepy) vibe that hardly to stimulate myself.
Since it not that challenging, I aim to long term instead. I just add a little good thing to my character, push myself a little, do stuff that I didn't do much(Ex.be friendly..)to gain reference point. The result is fine, sense some improvement BUT still.. don't like it much.

So I still figure it out how to like it. I'm not fully open mind even to close friend for a long time and thinking that maybe lacking some empathy. So I just want to know even your regular relationship/friendship, common things that make you be with your best friend or good feeling when you socialize someone. That's may be enough to make me remind.

OK.....first off, do not take this improvement of yourself slowly. Either go hard and make big changes, or go home. Whenever you're trying to change or create something, you have to think of it like painting a wall. You start with broad strokes with a huge brush/roller, and once that's done then you move onto smaller brushes (which would be more fine tuning and adding in little things here and there).

As for me, what I like the the most when I socialise and flirt is banter and meaningful connection. And I learned those through reading, watching certain movies and emulating certain characters, and just stone cold practice.

JacobPalmer said:

OK.....first off, do not take this improvement of yourself slowly. Either go hard and make big changes, or go home. Whenever you're trying to change or create something, you have to think of it like painting a wall. You start with broad strokes with a huge brush/roller, and once that's done then you move onto smaller brushes (which would be more fine tuning and adding in little things here and there).

As for me, what I like the the most when I socialise and flirt is banter and meaningful connection. And I learned those through reading, watching certain movies and emulating certain characters, and just stone cold practice.

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Thanks a bunch, sir. That painting quote is really good and I will remember for long.