Hey there Chris, glad to see you on the boards. Any idea what’s been holding you back? I’ve been a member of GirlChase for a little over a month now and initially I tried to read and absorb as much as I could everyday. So much so that I got overwhelmed rather quickly and had trouble internalizing all the information. I needed to take a step back to catch my breath, so I broke down everything I had picked up from the website and the ebooks and wrote down the things that were MOST relevant to me on a whiteboard and began applying them in smaller, more manageable chunks. Very much like what Chase outlined in the Newbie Assignment. I started seeing results almost immediately after that, not just with girls I was approaching but with my own my own mental attitude as well. Allow me to answer your questions with a run through of my first four weeks in the program.
Week 1 and 2: Fundamentals, fundamentals, fundamentals. I can easily consider this one of my greatest successes thus far, once I had those tightened up I started getting attention from women who otherwise wouldn’t even know I was there. However, just getting girls to notice me wasn’t enough, I realized I needed to do more when I found myself standing next to a gorgeous red-head and had no idea what to say to her,(couldn’t even eek out a ‘hello’) even though she was giving me come on signs like crazy. I was completely stupefied, and eventually she gave up and walked away. That was a pretty big failure on my part, but also a major turning point, I needed to step things up and add some more elements besides a new improved look.
Week 3: My friendzone friend came back into town and I was so not ready for that encounter, I instantly fell back into old habits and started chasing. Bad, bad, bad! It wasn’t just calling and texting and wanting to see her, but it was more the love-sick-puppy mental state that I was still carrying around that almost did me in. Losing her to a landslide of stupid mistakes that killed attraction early on was the reason I started this program in the first place. I’m never going back to being that person again, I have absolutely no use for that guy.
Week 4: Ahh, the turn around is starting to reveal itself. Fundamentals are firmly in place, a positive can-do attitude, a strong, sexy vibe with a slight edge, and girls LOVE it when I start talking to them out of the blue. I know I’d feel the same way if a hot chick just came up and started flirting with me, so why not give it to them first, it's they want anyway. The cute girl I teased and made blush at the video store, the girl at the restaurant who couldn’t take her eyes off me even though she was with another guy, or the four women from the local bar all clamoring for my attention. Yes it’s true, women do want a strong, sexy man to excite them, and after only four short weeks of SERIOUS dedication I was surprised to find that I was finally starting to become one of those men.
Good luck in your endeavors Chris, I’m confident once you find whatever your roadblock is you’ll quickly be able to move past it and get to the good stuff on the other side.