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Throughout the past few years, I have been working on developing my skills as a seducer, even though I am still in the beginning process of this stage. I found something that has really really helped me out, in particular with getting a woman's number, and can be broadened to any approach.
I used to be scared of "Rejection" (To most beginners it can be terrifying). I developed a technique or a rather mindset on my own that has really helped me tackle this obstacle to the ground.
Imagine that you are out at night in a club, and you see this beautiful woman. You want to approach her right? You start to think to yourself. "What if she doesn't accept me?" or "I think she is too good for me." These thoughts are not only negative, but are self-destructive.
There is a way out of this negative mindset or self-talk.
Take for example, you are talking to a woman, she is laughing at your comments, she is smiling, and being receptive to your flirting, and you decide you would like to get her contact information. Along with what Chase says in Natural Number Swapping of getting a number at the high point, when reaching that point in the conversation.
Think to yourself, "I have already been rejected if I do not try."
This is an interesting statement, what does it mean?
Think of it this way, If you ask a girl for her number, and she says no. That is called rejection right? But what if you don't ask for her number? You still don't have her number so ultimately you end up with the same result either way which is "no number."
What this is really about is to condition yourself to take a chance. It doesn't hurt to try, because if in the end you get rejected or shut-down, you are no worse off than you were to begin with. With this mindset you can only go up, and once you can adapt this it definitely helps boost your confidence and game.
Best of luck.
-Kota
I used to be scared of "Rejection" (To most beginners it can be terrifying). I developed a technique or a rather mindset on my own that has really helped me tackle this obstacle to the ground.
Imagine that you are out at night in a club, and you see this beautiful woman. You want to approach her right? You start to think to yourself. "What if she doesn't accept me?" or "I think she is too good for me." These thoughts are not only negative, but are self-destructive.
There is a way out of this negative mindset or self-talk.
Take for example, you are talking to a woman, she is laughing at your comments, she is smiling, and being receptive to your flirting, and you decide you would like to get her contact information. Along with what Chase says in Natural Number Swapping of getting a number at the high point, when reaching that point in the conversation.
Think to yourself, "I have already been rejected if I do not try."
This is an interesting statement, what does it mean?
Think of it this way, If you ask a girl for her number, and she says no. That is called rejection right? But what if you don't ask for her number? You still don't have her number so ultimately you end up with the same result either way which is "no number."
What this is really about is to condition yourself to take a chance. It doesn't hurt to try, because if in the end you get rejected or shut-down, you are no worse off than you were to begin with. With this mindset you can only go up, and once you can adapt this it definitely helps boost your confidence and game.
Best of luck.
-Kota