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Active listening was developed in the 1950s and progressed into later years by two humanistic psychologists named Abraham Maslow and Carl Rogers. Humanistic psychology relies on the idea that people are born innately good, and their emotions develop for the better or worse depending on their accounts and interactions in life. Rogers, the founder of humanistic therapy, used active listening and reiteration to allow patients to feel like the therapist understood them and would allow the patient to freely talk more, getting more personal and personal.
Why mention this at all, you may ask? What's this got to do with approaching women? Let me tell you the overall benefits of creating a humanistic mindset.
What this does: This mindset promotes an interest in other people, and by maintaining an attitude of bettering others, you give off a very enticing vibe, after locking eyes with a woman, and approaching, she feels your genuine vibe, and it relaxes her, it allows you to deep dive more easily.
However, this style of game is not appropriate for everyone, taking a genuine interest in a woman, and allowing yourself to empathize with her creates a romantic connection some men don't want, and girls that fall for the empathetic man fall hard! Very hard! And usually stay that way until they meet a "distraction man," which I've found to be a guy who is closest enough to you to give her the same connection you did. I still have girls from sophmore year who want me simply because I could hardcore relate to them (not conscious of this at the time), but now I know why.
For the men out there looking for a real relationship instead of a one night stand (I have no conflicting values with either), I recommend giving it a try, but do with it what you want, this information is yours.
What is active listening: This is listening to anyone, in this case its women, with a genuinely empathetic demeanor, shown through reiteration called echoing, as well as physical gestures. If a woman is telling you about her recently deceased aunt, and you echo specific words such as Deceased!? In a surprised but almost sorrowful tone, she will be more inclined to tell you what happened. But such is the case , when a woman is speaking with emotion, active listening allows you to mirror her emotion (but do it genuinely), and she will most definitely feel that connection, allowing her to become more attracted to you. I've found this to be a great tool (I don't use it as a tool, I've always done this naturally because of my personality), in starting a healthy, romantic relationship which withstands hardship and decay.
- Enjoy, Richard
Why mention this at all, you may ask? What's this got to do with approaching women? Let me tell you the overall benefits of creating a humanistic mindset.
What this does: This mindset promotes an interest in other people, and by maintaining an attitude of bettering others, you give off a very enticing vibe, after locking eyes with a woman, and approaching, she feels your genuine vibe, and it relaxes her, it allows you to deep dive more easily.
However, this style of game is not appropriate for everyone, taking a genuine interest in a woman, and allowing yourself to empathize with her creates a romantic connection some men don't want, and girls that fall for the empathetic man fall hard! Very hard! And usually stay that way until they meet a "distraction man," which I've found to be a guy who is closest enough to you to give her the same connection you did. I still have girls from sophmore year who want me simply because I could hardcore relate to them (not conscious of this at the time), but now I know why.
For the men out there looking for a real relationship instead of a one night stand (I have no conflicting values with either), I recommend giving it a try, but do with it what you want, this information is yours.
What is active listening: This is listening to anyone, in this case its women, with a genuinely empathetic demeanor, shown through reiteration called echoing, as well as physical gestures. If a woman is telling you about her recently deceased aunt, and you echo specific words such as Deceased!? In a surprised but almost sorrowful tone, she will be more inclined to tell you what happened. But such is the case , when a woman is speaking with emotion, active listening allows you to mirror her emotion (but do it genuinely), and she will most definitely feel that connection, allowing her to become more attracted to you. I've found this to be a great tool (I don't use it as a tool, I've always done this naturally because of my personality), in starting a healthy, romantic relationship which withstands hardship and decay.
- Enjoy, Richard