So here's the situation:
I am into committed monogamous relationships.
It's been 5 months since I have started dating my current girlfriend. The relationship is sexual and I am her first boyfriend (she is 22) and first ever sexual partner. Despite lack of experience, she is a great girlfriend who I really want to keep.
Now, both of us have a good social life outside of the relationship and recently she mentioned she might grab a drink in the evening with one of her guy friends.
As much as I am cool with her seeing her guy friends sometimes (just like I see other female friends), I am not cool with her drinking one-on-one with a guy at night.
I joked and said, "So that means it's okay for me to do go out drinking one-on-one with female friends at night?" - which I did in my past relationships and it would make a girl change her mind. But my current gf said it's cool and she trusts me. I think it might be due to her not having prior experience with other guys, but might be wrong?
Anyways, I really don't want this kind of things to happen in the relationship, as I see it as something a single person would do. How do I prevent single-like behaviour?
I don't want to say no, cuz that would make me look needy, jealous and controlling.
But I don't want to say yes either, because I'm worried it might make it seem okay for her to do it in the future, i.e. our relationship won't be as serious.
Help.
I am into committed monogamous relationships.
It's been 5 months since I have started dating my current girlfriend. The relationship is sexual and I am her first boyfriend (she is 22) and first ever sexual partner. Despite lack of experience, she is a great girlfriend who I really want to keep.
Now, both of us have a good social life outside of the relationship and recently she mentioned she might grab a drink in the evening with one of her guy friends.
As much as I am cool with her seeing her guy friends sometimes (just like I see other female friends), I am not cool with her drinking one-on-one with a guy at night.
I joked and said, "So that means it's okay for me to do go out drinking one-on-one with female friends at night?" - which I did in my past relationships and it would make a girl change her mind. But my current gf said it's cool and she trusts me. I think it might be due to her not having prior experience with other guys, but might be wrong?
Anyways, I really don't want this kind of things to happen in the relationship, as I see it as something a single person would do. How do I prevent single-like behaviour?
I don't want to say no, cuz that would make me look needy, jealous and controlling.
But I don't want to say yes either, because I'm worried it might make it seem okay for her to do it in the future, i.e. our relationship won't be as serious.
Help.