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So I'm a beginner, so please give me any tips or recommendations you guys can suggest!
There was this cute co-worker that I work with, and she would always touch me or make flirty comments with me.
I asked her out and we went on a date on Saturday to get food. We talked for about 2 hours, which I think was sort of bad, considering she did 75% of the talking. But we did a lot of emotionally connecting, and deep-diving.
Long story short, she dropped me off at my house. (I currently don't drive due to DUI reasons.)
I tried to kiss her, but she said she doesn't move that fast.
I texted her the day after saying I had a lot of fun, and we should do it again, and she responded with, "yes I had a great and awesome time too!!"
We worked together Sunday, and were talking, and she asked me to meet up with lunch on Monday. I told her I had work obligations, and she said okay. The next morning my client canceled, and I told her if she wanted to meet up still, and she said she probably couldn't. I know this is where I messed up. I asked her if she still wanted to go, and she said she couldn't and maybe another day.
This is once again where I threw out red flags for being desperate and needy. I sent her a message after to let me know when her schedule clears up, and we can figure it out.
The next day she texted me that, "So yesterday was pretty much my last day at work!"
I replied with a dumb comment, and she basically ghosted me. I sent two more texts, one was an open minded question regarding her trip to her home country for a month, and the other one, "I would like to hang out with you before you leave, let's grab some bite or drinks?" (I know, huge no-no,) Ad she eventually said, "yeah sure, sounds good."
I told her let's meet up at 9 on Saturday, and she hasn't responded yet.
I would like to know what mistakes I made.
I know I came off as needy, and desperate, and shouldn't have persisted on the lunch date. I also shouldn't have sent her the dumb texts, or the scheduling thing when she clearly wasn't free.
She's going back home for a month. So if she does say okay to Saturday, how can I close it, before she leaves? Is it even worth pursuing at this point? And should I give her till today to respond, or just take it as a move on anyways?
There was this cute co-worker that I work with, and she would always touch me or make flirty comments with me.
I asked her out and we went on a date on Saturday to get food. We talked for about 2 hours, which I think was sort of bad, considering she did 75% of the talking. But we did a lot of emotionally connecting, and deep-diving.
Long story short, she dropped me off at my house. (I currently don't drive due to DUI reasons.)
I tried to kiss her, but she said she doesn't move that fast.
I texted her the day after saying I had a lot of fun, and we should do it again, and she responded with, "yes I had a great and awesome time too!!"
We worked together Sunday, and were talking, and she asked me to meet up with lunch on Monday. I told her I had work obligations, and she said okay. The next morning my client canceled, and I told her if she wanted to meet up still, and she said she probably couldn't. I know this is where I messed up. I asked her if she still wanted to go, and she said she couldn't and maybe another day.
This is once again where I threw out red flags for being desperate and needy. I sent her a message after to let me know when her schedule clears up, and we can figure it out.
The next day she texted me that, "So yesterday was pretty much my last day at work!"
I replied with a dumb comment, and she basically ghosted me. I sent two more texts, one was an open minded question regarding her trip to her home country for a month, and the other one, "I would like to hang out with you before you leave, let's grab some bite or drinks?" (I know, huge no-no,) Ad she eventually said, "yeah sure, sounds good."
I told her let's meet up at 9 on Saturday, and she hasn't responded yet.
I would like to know what mistakes I made.
I know I came off as needy, and desperate, and shouldn't have persisted on the lunch date. I also shouldn't have sent her the dumb texts, or the scheduling thing when she clearly wasn't free.
She's going back home for a month. So if she does say okay to Saturday, how can I close it, before she leaves? Is it even worth pursuing at this point? And should I give her till today to respond, or just take it as a move on anyways?