I'm on summer break right now. I'm planning on meeting up with a girl that I would be interested in dating in a week. We've been texting sporadically but recently more and more because she gets drunk and messages me each night.
The texting began when she planned a big day/night trip together. She put a lot of effort into planning the date to make up for missing the party that I invited her to.
Next, She checked in again to make sure I would be there and I confirmed that I would be there and killed the conversation. She privately commented on several of my snapchat stories and I killed the conversation each time to keep her chasing.
Next, she asked how my surgery recovery was going and if there was anything she could do to help. I suggested a playlist would help me recover and she made one. It was about 15 songs that definitely had a "chasing" vibe.
Next, she drunk text confessed to me that I had been in her dreams for the last 2 nights. She told me I was the hero each time and said "I don't know why I can't stop thinking about you".
Finally, she (with a little bit more context) told me that she would only spoon someone if it was me. I counter by saying she could only spoon me if I was little spoon. This leads to her big resistance:
"I feel I need to be honest with you, I'm not gonna have sex with you even if I like you cause I'm not into the casual sex thing in general. I don't want you to have the wrong expectations if that's what your after. Sorry very high I know this is weird"
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It seems to me that she is trying to hold sex captive as leverage for a relationship. I would love advice on how to proceed. I don't want to handle this through text but I'm not sure how to deflate the situation. I feel like I should perhaps change the subject but that feels clumsy... would appreciate any suggestions. Thank you!!!
The texting began when she planned a big day/night trip together. She put a lot of effort into planning the date to make up for missing the party that I invited her to.
Next, She checked in again to make sure I would be there and I confirmed that I would be there and killed the conversation. She privately commented on several of my snapchat stories and I killed the conversation each time to keep her chasing.
Next, she asked how my surgery recovery was going and if there was anything she could do to help. I suggested a playlist would help me recover and she made one. It was about 15 songs that definitely had a "chasing" vibe.
Next, she drunk text confessed to me that I had been in her dreams for the last 2 nights. She told me I was the hero each time and said "I don't know why I can't stop thinking about you".
Finally, she (with a little bit more context) told me that she would only spoon someone if it was me. I counter by saying she could only spoon me if I was little spoon. This leads to her big resistance:
"I feel I need to be honest with you, I'm not gonna have sex with you even if I like you cause I'm not into the casual sex thing in general. I don't want you to have the wrong expectations if that's what your after. Sorry very high I know this is weird"
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It seems to me that she is trying to hold sex captive as leverage for a relationship. I would love advice on how to proceed. I don't want to handle this through text but I'm not sure how to deflate the situation. I feel like I should perhaps change the subject but that feels clumsy... would appreciate any suggestions. Thank you!!!
