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I met a beautiful girl at a bar, we talked got her number the next day.
Date 1) We met up for "sunset and wine" (her idea after I offered acai bowls at 2ish but she was busy until 5). We hit it off, had terrific deep dive conversations, passionate make out and then my escalation to sex failed and we began the first of several resistance-conversations. She didn't want to have sex and without knowing why she was against it I began to try to persuade her that the restrictions that society put on women for sex are lame. This didn't work. She asked me "have you ever had sex with someone on the first date and then dated them". I said no which is the truth, but I've never liked someone as much as her. She clearly had the upper hand in this exchange because ended with something along the lines of "we'll see a little more of each other each time." At this point she seems like she's a very expeienced and socially savvy woman who rebuffed my efforts with ease. However, she also says with a tone of suprise at one point in the night, "I think you're out of my league".
We see each other for shorter dates, again no sex due to logistics. I'm annoyed to admit that I've been thinking about her too much so I try to contact other girls and talk to people on the street but I know it's half-hearted.
Date 4) She come's to my place, less deep diving but she's still sharing a bunch about herself. We kiss passionately again. I try to escalate again and she denies again. "I feel dirty when I sleep with people without there being an emotional connection". At this point I probably should have deep dived really hard but didn't think about it at the time. She claims she "doesn't want a boyfriend and doesn't want a hookup". I accuse her of just not liking sex and she kind of laughs. I suggest she's looking for a "friend with benefits" and she seems to kind of like that idea but then says "now you know what my deal is it's up to you". She then leaves, (which takes 20 minutes because we kiss so much on the way out.
Current time: I sent her a text about an hour after she left thanking her for coming over and telling her it was fun.
My conundrum: I don't know if I should back off and give her some time to reach out to me and show more commitment which would be the proper response if she was playing hard to get
...or if I should try to arrange something with her tomorrow and show more warmth because she's afraid that I'm a fuckboi or something.
Thank you for any and all constructive criticism and feedback.
-T
I met a beautiful girl at a bar, we talked got her number the next day.
Date 1) We met up for "sunset and wine" (her idea after I offered acai bowls at 2ish but she was busy until 5). We hit it off, had terrific deep dive conversations, passionate make out and then my escalation to sex failed and we began the first of several resistance-conversations. She didn't want to have sex and without knowing why she was against it I began to try to persuade her that the restrictions that society put on women for sex are lame. This didn't work. She asked me "have you ever had sex with someone on the first date and then dated them". I said no which is the truth, but I've never liked someone as much as her. She clearly had the upper hand in this exchange because ended with something along the lines of "we'll see a little more of each other each time." At this point she seems like she's a very expeienced and socially savvy woman who rebuffed my efforts with ease. However, she also says with a tone of suprise at one point in the night, "I think you're out of my league".
We see each other for shorter dates, again no sex due to logistics. I'm annoyed to admit that I've been thinking about her too much so I try to contact other girls and talk to people on the street but I know it's half-hearted.
Date 4) She come's to my place, less deep diving but she's still sharing a bunch about herself. We kiss passionately again. I try to escalate again and she denies again. "I feel dirty when I sleep with people without there being an emotional connection". At this point I probably should have deep dived really hard but didn't think about it at the time. She claims she "doesn't want a boyfriend and doesn't want a hookup". I accuse her of just not liking sex and she kind of laughs. I suggest she's looking for a "friend with benefits" and she seems to kind of like that idea but then says "now you know what my deal is it's up to you". She then leaves, (which takes 20 minutes because we kiss so much on the way out.
Current time: I sent her a text about an hour after she left thanking her for coming over and telling her it was fun.
My conundrum: I don't know if I should back off and give her some time to reach out to me and show more commitment which would be the proper response if she was playing hard to get
...or if I should try to arrange something with her tomorrow and show more warmth because she's afraid that I'm a fuckboi or something.
Thank you for any and all constructive criticism and feedback.
-T