Hi everyone I recently started reading Girls Chase and watching the videos they are very informative but I find myself in a situation that I don't know what to make of and none of the articles really cover it. So I thought I would ask the forum for advice. The short story is that the girl I am wanting to date is showing interest but is throwing up a major attainability wall. The long story is a bit more complicated.
So the girl I am wanting to date is a coworker of mine. To be more exact she is my counterpart meaning we do the same job but we work opposite days since it is just the two of us. I of course was the one to train her which allowed me to talk to her and at least somewhat get to know her. While sparks didn't fly the conversations were always comfortable and not awkward. Then some coworkers started heckling me for having gotten her number. Which I really do need for work purposes. During that it was obvious that I liked her and I admitted as much to them. They pushed me to ask her out. Which I resisted since she is a coworker and I also just over thought everything.
Then word spread so I got several people who would almost daily ask me if I had texted her or asked her out. One day while I was present one of my coworker let slip to my crush's dad who also works with us that I liked her. Hi response was something along the line of I don't care I stopped greeting her boyfriend with a shotgun years ago. What I got out of it was that she is single, dad didn't mention a boyfriend and that her dad didn't care if I dated her.
Fast forward to last Thursday I go into work and one of my female coworkers asks if I have texted or ask out my crush yet. I say no and the she says I really should. The coworker had told the girl I have a crush on that I like her. I'm not sure when this was but anyway my coworker tells me that my crush was saying she wanted me to text her and ask her. She went so far as to ask my coworker why I wouldn't text her and if it was because of her dad that he doesn't intimidate her boyfriends anymore. So I go back into work on Friday and the same coworker is there and asks me if I ask have texted my crush yet. I decided to shit test her and I say yes I asked her out be she said no. My coworker got upset say something along the lines of I don’t understand she said she wanted you to ask her out. I then told that I hadn’t ask her out and was messing with her. At I am like great I got a girl who I am sexual attracted to, whose personality I like, who is available, and who is showing interest. Quite a bit of interest actually. I of course decide I better hit this and now.
I my intention was to ask her out in person on Saturday or Sunday but do to unexpected circumstances that was not possible. I texted her asking about her schedule Sunday evening but did not get a reply. I suspect my text did not go through. I decided to wait a little bit before texting her again. Monday evening I go into work and the same coworker who has been talking about me to my crush is there. She said she worked Sunday and my crush asked about me again. I then decide to text her while I’m on break and we text off and on for about four hours since we are both doing stuff. Going into it I was confident that since she was available and showed interest that as long as I don’t pick a stupid first date like sky diving or an inconvenient time I was assured at least one date.
So the girl I am wanting to date is a coworker of mine. To be more exact she is my counterpart meaning we do the same job but we work opposite days since it is just the two of us. I of course was the one to train her which allowed me to talk to her and at least somewhat get to know her. While sparks didn't fly the conversations were always comfortable and not awkward. Then some coworkers started heckling me for having gotten her number. Which I really do need for work purposes. During that it was obvious that I liked her and I admitted as much to them. They pushed me to ask her out. Which I resisted since she is a coworker and I also just over thought everything.
Then word spread so I got several people who would almost daily ask me if I had texted her or asked her out. One day while I was present one of my coworker let slip to my crush's dad who also works with us that I liked her. Hi response was something along the line of I don't care I stopped greeting her boyfriend with a shotgun years ago. What I got out of it was that she is single, dad didn't mention a boyfriend and that her dad didn't care if I dated her.
Fast forward to last Thursday I go into work and one of my female coworkers asks if I have texted or ask out my crush yet. I say no and the she says I really should. The coworker had told the girl I have a crush on that I like her. I'm not sure when this was but anyway my coworker tells me that my crush was saying she wanted me to text her and ask her. She went so far as to ask my coworker why I wouldn't text her and if it was because of her dad that he doesn't intimidate her boyfriends anymore. So I go back into work on Friday and the same coworker is there and asks me if I ask have texted my crush yet. I decided to shit test her and I say yes I asked her out be she said no. My coworker got upset say something along the lines of I don’t understand she said she wanted you to ask her out. I then told that I hadn’t ask her out and was messing with her. At I am like great I got a girl who I am sexual attracted to, whose personality I like, who is available, and who is showing interest. Quite a bit of interest actually. I of course decide I better hit this and now.
I my intention was to ask her out in person on Saturday or Sunday but do to unexpected circumstances that was not possible. I texted her asking about her schedule Sunday evening but did not get a reply. I suspect my text did not go through. I decided to wait a little bit before texting her again. Monday evening I go into work and the same coworker who has been talking about me to my crush is there. She said she worked Sunday and my crush asked about me again. I then decide to text her while I’m on break and we text off and on for about four hours since we are both doing stuff. Going into it I was confident that since she was available and showed interest that as long as I don’t pick a stupid first date like sky diving or an inconvenient time I was assured at least one date.