Hey everyone,
It seems like I’m not being able to deal with the approach anxiety that I have. I get completely frozen at the moment of truth and don’t get to say anything.
I approached 2 different women in the past, one two years ago and another one year ago.
The first one got totally creeped out when I said my first phrase. My voice was too monotone and really shaky because of the fear. I didn’t even get to complement her, the look of fear at her face completely shattered what little willpower I had at disposal. I intended to continue to approach, telling myself that the first one would be the worst and that it would get better but unfortunately I didn’t. I didn’t want to keep creeping out women like that. I know that emotions transmit from one to another and that was probably what happened.
The second one I was on my way to the beach and I told her to stop and said that I thought she was incredibly cute. She just laughed, said “ok” and walked away. Better than the first, at least she didn’t act like I was about to harm her, but not great either. I should have continued to approach but there weren’t any girls alone on that area, mostly couples and kids, aside from that one that I encountered on the way there.
About 7 months ago I tried to do the Newbie Assignment (viewtopic.php?t=12898&p=65746) only to disappointingly not being able to get past saying hello to 6 attractive women. Only said hi to 2 in one day. Both ignored me, probably didn’t even hear me say it or pretended to.
For the past few weeks I have been trying to get down asking for directions at the street. I began startling girls at the beginning but I have resolved that now. I also incorporated pre-opening by beginning to talk before I look at their eyes and the women I asked directions to seemed to smile more and some seemed that were even excited that I was talking to them. I reached the end of the rope as far as asking for directions go.
Today I said to myself that I would begin to use the “Easy Opening with Indirect Direct” (https://www.girlschase.com/content/easy- ... ect-direct) and transition that to a conversation. All day before going out I was on tremendous stress even getting diarrhea before going out. All that pain to not being able to make myself to do it, only thinking that I was going to creep the shit out the girl that I talked to. Which is why I am writing this in here, I don’t have many options left.
Is there any training camp that I can get? Something that MAKES me approach? It’s the only thing that I can think of.
It seems like I’m not being able to deal with the approach anxiety that I have. I get completely frozen at the moment of truth and don’t get to say anything.
I approached 2 different women in the past, one two years ago and another one year ago.
The first one got totally creeped out when I said my first phrase. My voice was too monotone and really shaky because of the fear. I didn’t even get to complement her, the look of fear at her face completely shattered what little willpower I had at disposal. I intended to continue to approach, telling myself that the first one would be the worst and that it would get better but unfortunately I didn’t. I didn’t want to keep creeping out women like that. I know that emotions transmit from one to another and that was probably what happened.
The second one I was on my way to the beach and I told her to stop and said that I thought she was incredibly cute. She just laughed, said “ok” and walked away. Better than the first, at least she didn’t act like I was about to harm her, but not great either. I should have continued to approach but there weren’t any girls alone on that area, mostly couples and kids, aside from that one that I encountered on the way there.
About 7 months ago I tried to do the Newbie Assignment (viewtopic.php?t=12898&p=65746) only to disappointingly not being able to get past saying hello to 6 attractive women. Only said hi to 2 in one day. Both ignored me, probably didn’t even hear me say it or pretended to.
For the past few weeks I have been trying to get down asking for directions at the street. I began startling girls at the beginning but I have resolved that now. I also incorporated pre-opening by beginning to talk before I look at their eyes and the women I asked directions to seemed to smile more and some seemed that were even excited that I was talking to them. I reached the end of the rope as far as asking for directions go.
Today I said to myself that I would begin to use the “Easy Opening with Indirect Direct” (https://www.girlschase.com/content/easy- ... ect-direct) and transition that to a conversation. All day before going out I was on tremendous stress even getting diarrhea before going out. All that pain to not being able to make myself to do it, only thinking that I was going to creep the shit out the girl that I talked to. Which is why I am writing this in here, I don’t have many options left.
Is there any training camp that I can get? Something that MAKES me approach? It’s the only thing that I can think of.