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The Technician's Homework and Field Notes
Here is where I will update my progress on going through the Technician's homework and write what i learn from different articles that I read. I will also post my outing reports on here relevant to the homework assignments.
Day 1
Thoughts on Readings: Attraction definitely has an expiration date. I've had girls who were very obviously wanting me to talk to them and approach them (strong eye contact, smiling, flirting, twirling their hair, etc.) and then I didn't. Then, when I saw them later, they were cold and not interested. I've also had girls go on dates with me, me fail to get to sex with them and then never hear from them again. I've then had girls do sexual things with me, but I didn't penetrate and then they didn't want to see me again. Finally, I've had sex with a girl and then wasn't able to get inside her again fast enough before she decided it was too hard to meet with me (logistically) so "it must be God showing her that she's not ready for sex".
Homework: Without writing the names of girls, I definitely wish I would've done things differently. I wish I would've taken them faster, been more aggressive, and taken charge. I wish I would've been comfortable enough with my own sexuality and had the logistics ready so I could move fast. I wish I wouldn't have drawn out some interactions to make a girl wait for a date and instead of taken her then and there (same day dates/lays).
Day 2
Thoughts on Readings: Helping a girl to make a decision is definitely something I can work on doing better. This goes along with social pressure - using it rightly. Brushing off comments I don't like and engaging more in good conversational topics from the get-go. Getting solid investment and being a tease.
Homework: I've become a very stoic person over time and it's something I'd like to fix. When it comes to pressure in social situations, I think I tend to do some of the leg work for women sometimes (by telling them about myself when they don't ask) instead of letting them develop an interest in me. Its a bad habit because ultimately I'm afraid to lose that interaction. But this usually causes me to lose it anyways. I've defused the tension so to say. I also seem to talk fast, especially when I first talk to a girl and I don't slow down and actually listen. This is something I need to actively work on being better about, especially when it comes to the first few minutes of my interaction with a woman. In other words, I need to ALWAYS assume attraction.
Day 3
Thoughts on 15 Lessons:
1) My current goal is to sleep with 100 women (yes I know I said I want a harem style set up, but after getting laid, I want to get better at doing that FIRST). Therefore, the girl I am going for should be more liberal, open to new things (tattoos, piercings), (maybe) not super religious, and open to talking about sex.
2) I definitely need to learn to be more sexual more early into the interaction. This is something I feel sort of weird about, even if I know girls love sex. I need to break out of my comfort zone here.
3) Again, communicating early on that I know women are sexual and wild creatures.
4) "You know I'd really love to catch up again, have hot chocolate or whatever...but I'm just so busy these days"
5) I am actually going to be leaving town in 4 months - something I can begin to use to my advantage (and to say I am new to town when I do move)
6) I think I prefer girls to pay for my drink (because it gets expensive) and a lot of the time, I've had girls offer, so I take them up on it. But I've also had girls who were unsure financially and I just decide to pay for them as long as they provide good conversation
7) Definitely go simple. Drinks then take her home (if she's ready) or maybe go for a walk to the park then take her home
8) Definitely going to have to think this through when choosing where to get my place after the 4 months are up. For now, my focus is on getting her back to her place or escalating in an unusual location
9) Plausible deniability. Definitely something I need to work on being smoother about. When it comes to going back to her place, I could bring up putting on a movie (I think this will be my go to). If she says she's not in the mood for a movie I could talk about getting food or ice cream back at her place.
10) I'm not sure about including alcohol just yet. Maybe invite her back to my place for a nightcap when I do have my own place
11) Hmm...weekend dates probably work the best for me (and her since most of the college girls I know could be busy during the week). Depends girl-to-girl
12) Definitely something I'm going to be including in my "routine". Is she busy right after this? Can I join her in her activity? If not, how about later today? If not then, I will take her number and plan for a later day. (the biggest chunk in this is my own schedule, but I usually have the evenings free so I can do better)
13) Makes sense. If she's busy, that's OK
14) Including this as I said above.
15) I definitely hate chasing girls through their calendar. I won't do it anymore because it's annoying and unproductive lol
Thoughts on the other reading: I definitely have a go-back-and-forth style of talking right now (being honest with myself). I need to practice keeping the conversation off myself (to include more humor at the girl's expense). I need to have more "fun" with my conversations in the sense that I don't need to be so damn serious all the time. I think as I improve other areas of my life this will improve as well.
Homework: Definitely attraction was the first thing that did it. I'm beginning to understand the "lover" role a bit better. He stays mysterious by not saying all the facts. Thinking back to the women that chased me, I kept the conversation on them, providing little to no details about myself. In the recent conversations I've had where I've been rusty, I've included myself (without her asking) and it tanked their attraction for me (probably because I'm trying to force a connection and it feels try-hard in that I may be trying to show off as impressive). It's definitely less work to keep the conversation on them. JUST BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T ASK ABOUT ME DOESN'T MEAN SHE ISN'T INTERESTED. This is something I need to drill in my brain matter. This comes back to assuming attraction. "Who's more honest than the man who says nothing?" Let her ask the questions if she wants to know. If not, assume she's attracted and move things forward faster.
Day 4
Here is where I will update my progress on going through the Technician's homework and write what i learn from different articles that I read. I will also post my outing reports on here relevant to the homework assignments.
Day 1
Thoughts on Readings: Attraction definitely has an expiration date. I've had girls who were very obviously wanting me to talk to them and approach them (strong eye contact, smiling, flirting, twirling their hair, etc.) and then I didn't. Then, when I saw them later, they were cold and not interested. I've also had girls go on dates with me, me fail to get to sex with them and then never hear from them again. I've then had girls do sexual things with me, but I didn't penetrate and then they didn't want to see me again. Finally, I've had sex with a girl and then wasn't able to get inside her again fast enough before she decided it was too hard to meet with me (logistically) so "it must be God showing her that she's not ready for sex".
Homework: Without writing the names of girls, I definitely wish I would've done things differently. I wish I would've taken them faster, been more aggressive, and taken charge. I wish I would've been comfortable enough with my own sexuality and had the logistics ready so I could move fast. I wish I wouldn't have drawn out some interactions to make a girl wait for a date and instead of taken her then and there (same day dates/lays).
Day 2
Thoughts on Readings: Helping a girl to make a decision is definitely something I can work on doing better. This goes along with social pressure - using it rightly. Brushing off comments I don't like and engaging more in good conversational topics from the get-go. Getting solid investment and being a tease.
Homework: I've become a very stoic person over time and it's something I'd like to fix. When it comes to pressure in social situations, I think I tend to do some of the leg work for women sometimes (by telling them about myself when they don't ask) instead of letting them develop an interest in me. Its a bad habit because ultimately I'm afraid to lose that interaction. But this usually causes me to lose it anyways. I've defused the tension so to say. I also seem to talk fast, especially when I first talk to a girl and I don't slow down and actually listen. This is something I need to actively work on being better about, especially when it comes to the first few minutes of my interaction with a woman. In other words, I need to ALWAYS assume attraction.
Day 3
Thoughts on 15 Lessons:
1) My current goal is to sleep with 100 women (yes I know I said I want a harem style set up, but after getting laid, I want to get better at doing that FIRST). Therefore, the girl I am going for should be more liberal, open to new things (tattoos, piercings), (maybe) not super religious, and open to talking about sex.
2) I definitely need to learn to be more sexual more early into the interaction. This is something I feel sort of weird about, even if I know girls love sex. I need to break out of my comfort zone here.
3) Again, communicating early on that I know women are sexual and wild creatures.
4) "You know I'd really love to catch up again, have hot chocolate or whatever...but I'm just so busy these days"
5) I am actually going to be leaving town in 4 months - something I can begin to use to my advantage (and to say I am new to town when I do move)
6) I think I prefer girls to pay for my drink (because it gets expensive) and a lot of the time, I've had girls offer, so I take them up on it. But I've also had girls who were unsure financially and I just decide to pay for them as long as they provide good conversation
7) Definitely go simple. Drinks then take her home (if she's ready) or maybe go for a walk to the park then take her home
8) Definitely going to have to think this through when choosing where to get my place after the 4 months are up. For now, my focus is on getting her back to her place or escalating in an unusual location
9) Plausible deniability. Definitely something I need to work on being smoother about. When it comes to going back to her place, I could bring up putting on a movie (I think this will be my go to). If she says she's not in the mood for a movie I could talk about getting food or ice cream back at her place.
10) I'm not sure about including alcohol just yet. Maybe invite her back to my place for a nightcap when I do have my own place
11) Hmm...weekend dates probably work the best for me (and her since most of the college girls I know could be busy during the week). Depends girl-to-girl
12) Definitely something I'm going to be including in my "routine". Is she busy right after this? Can I join her in her activity? If not, how about later today? If not then, I will take her number and plan for a later day. (the biggest chunk in this is my own schedule, but I usually have the evenings free so I can do better)
13) Makes sense. If she's busy, that's OK
14) Including this as I said above.
15) I definitely hate chasing girls through their calendar. I won't do it anymore because it's annoying and unproductive lol
Thoughts on the other reading: I definitely have a go-back-and-forth style of talking right now (being honest with myself). I need to practice keeping the conversation off myself (to include more humor at the girl's expense). I need to have more "fun" with my conversations in the sense that I don't need to be so damn serious all the time. I think as I improve other areas of my life this will improve as well.
Homework: Definitely attraction was the first thing that did it. I'm beginning to understand the "lover" role a bit better. He stays mysterious by not saying all the facts. Thinking back to the women that chased me, I kept the conversation on them, providing little to no details about myself. In the recent conversations I've had where I've been rusty, I've included myself (without her asking) and it tanked their attraction for me (probably because I'm trying to force a connection and it feels try-hard in that I may be trying to show off as impressive). It's definitely less work to keep the conversation on them. JUST BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T ASK ABOUT ME DOESN'T MEAN SHE ISN'T INTERESTED. This is something I need to drill in my brain matter. This comes back to assuming attraction. "Who's more honest than the man who says nothing?" Let her ask the questions if she wants to know. If not, assume she's attracted and move things forward faster.
Day 4