Update 4/19:
Hey guys! Just had my birthday so that was fun. I got a new photography lens (75-200 mm zoom lens for you photography nerds
).
I've been doing a lot of reading on GC to better understand how I'm going to seduce from here on out. Here's a gist:
1) Focusing on Day-Game and Social Circle
2) Going to focus on being elegant and turning sexy as the vibe escalates
3) Focus on being smooth and charming
*In summary of top points: following a maximizing approach to getting women*
I've been doing a lot of visualization and meditation to work on my vibe, reading on how to improve my conversationalist skills, and calibrating my approach and hook methods to be congruent with this style of game.
I've also spent time today re-evaluating the venues I visit (AND I WAS DOING IT ALL WRONG GUYS).
What I was doing was cold approaching at stores, at school (when I went, now graduated), and the occasional coffee shop or bookstore. But after seriously evaluating my city and what these venues were like (awful btw - not to mention I burned a lot of them...whoops).
I could seriously kick myself for how thirsty and not-smart I was being. But I have to forgive myself and move forward.
Here's the venues I
SHOULD/WILL be attending:
- the social club
- the activity group
- the charity event
- the networking event
- the party
- salsa classes
- martial arts classes
- vacations (when I finally get around to traveling)
- parties
- lounges
- social events
- public events (which don't happen often here sadly)
ON OCCASION:
- whole foods (ONLY when buying food)
- Trader Joes (ONLY when buying food)
- hired guns
(for completeness, my city DOES NOT have: good book stores (all single level and small, even B&N), the street, public transportation, a beach)
So that fixes my bad venue choices. Plus these jive with my style of seduction MUCH better.
The biggest change is getting this chasing mentality out of my head. The goal is for women to chase ME, not the other way around. This is a big change from what I was doing because, like a major GC writer says (can't remember who atm), mass approaching is ADDICTIVE (like being on drugs - it seriously makes you feel like the MAN but it is totally counterproductive and possibly destructive).
So I have to work on undoing all of that bad field programming and work on building the right habits by visiting the right venues and practicing this very defined style of game.
In other news, I'm strong on no-fap and all my other life areas. Working on finding a solid job with some help in the midst of all this covid stuff. So that should be good to finally get something worth my time.
Hope you all are well this month as well.
Till the next update,
NBW