Alright.
Time to be serious.
Things that are holding me back from being at 100% (mentally and physically)
- Occasional masturbation during times of weakness. Biggest causes? A hard day followed by taking my phone in my room at night. The fix? To leave my phone downstairs. Much less likely to text something stupid or go back to online chats for sexting (no, I gave up porn long ago)
- My diet. My parents don't have the best diet. So I'm going to be much more selective about what I eat. No highly processed foods and giving up sugary or high salt foods. Focus instead on protein, carbohydrates, and good fats.
- I stopped taking cold showers so back to that. Sleep is also now a serious focus. I don't operate right without it.
- Proper exercise goals and socializing opportunities. No more holding back. I'm going to learn as much as I can and catch up.
- Logistics. This is just something i cannot fix right now. I have to go for women with their own place or push hard for sex in exotic places.
- Proper process. This is what I'm covering next.
Fixing my Game
I honestly for a while thought I was pretty solid at my game. But I've realized I still have so much to learn. Here's what I need to fix (in no particular order):
1) Bar Pickup
2) Club Pickup
3) I haven't completed a single seduction all the way through (have gotten close but not all the way yet)
4) Managing groups - I've done this before but never really learned the right way to
5) Managing two girls - I've always screened out girls who are in groups of two because I don't know how to handle them
6) Performing and handling rapid escalation - I've always been a really chill guy and it's resulted in me not being aggressive enough
7) leading a girl to an unusual seduction location (bathroom, forest, car, alleyway, etc.)
8) Getting a girl who has a boyfriend
9) Setting the right sexual frames very very early on and setting up the right expectations. i need to bake this in to my process.
10) Using compassion / empathy - something I'm seriously weak at
11) Using sexual tension over sex talk. Looking back on when I've gotten the furthest with girls in person, it was ALWAYS because there was a buildup of sexual tension. Sex talk takes away from that and is just plain crude. I've found it also puts girls on edge with you because you've shown them your hand (oh he must be a player)
12) Following a ladder when touching. I've been touching girls, but never did I do it according to a ladder.
13) Following a ladder with compliance. I've always gotten compliance with girls but I never did it according to a ladder.
14) I obviously need to work on staying mysterious and keeping a mystery about me. One thing I learned from the religious girl.
15) Focusing more on same day lays and dates. I've recently been making this a focus. Time to bake it into my process.
16) Fixing my fundamentals of face expressions, eye contact, and voice. I know I've been saying this for a while, but it's true. Although I know the right faces to make, I don't know what it feels like when I make them. Time to practice in the mirror. I also need to learn when to break eye contact and how to use it properly. I'm not a little bitch afraid to look someone in the eye. But it's time I learned how to use it to my advantage (and yes I've gotten girls horny just by looking at them).
17) Keeping my damn mouth shut. No more telling people about the girls I'm seeing or going out with. No more.
18) Being a better flirter. I flirt pretty damn well but I need it to be a more automatic process
19) Getting rid of saying "excuse me" and "how are you" when talking to people. Time to replace with genuine compliments.
20) Moving faster. Much faster.
21) Getting my timing down. I either rush into things too quickly or go too slow.
22) Framing myself properly. I need to get it into my head that I CAN BE ANYONE. Yes, I should be honest with a girl about myself. But does she need to know I want to become an anesthesiology assistant? Not necessarily. But does she need to know I'm going to school to eventually become wealthy, travel the world, and meet amazing, sexy women? Sure.
23) Staying busy socially. Time to stop being so damn lazy.
24) Girls are just girls are just girls. They're cute and funny and silly. There's millions of them.
25) Keep defining myself and building my value. I know I'm worth it. Time to make it known.
THE UPDATED OUTING SCHEDULE
So I have a lot to keep me busy. I also am fixing my outing schedule. The one I had before was way too constrictive and hard to follow because I needed options to pick from. So I'm changing it to the following, tested and verified (by myself) places to be:
MONDAY THRU WEDNESDAY I AM RELYING MOSTLY ON DAY GAME
Monday - Wednesday
7 - 12 Work
12 - 1 Gym
1 - 5 options:
- Starbucks by campus (many young women - perfect time to go there), Target shopping center (one of my favorite locations), Hobby Lobby (also many young women and have met quite a few there), TUESDAY - I have class during this time
AROUND 5: A great time to go to the dog park. Also around 7:30 - 8:30. Works Mon - Wed.
5 - 6 Dinner
6 - 9 options:
- Target shopping center (again, a great option), Kohls (clothing stores), happy hour at the bar, whole food stores, Starbucks (always seems to be hit or miss), king soopers store (one near my house), dog park (as stated above)
*Note: Post bar on the street is also a good time to hang out. Grab a seat outside and approach from there.*
*Note: On Wednesday night, I have two good options: Swing Dancing (which costs $8 each night, but a great option to learn to dance and do social circle game) OR going to the bars (which I've learned how to do pretty cheap thanks to Chase's article - tonic water with lime, please)
Thursday
7 - 12 Work
12 - 1 Gym
1:40 - 5 Class
5 - 6 Dinner
6: 30 - 10 Church Group (won't be getting any girls from here - I promised the pastor I wouldn't have sex with any of them, although he allowed dating, making out, etc. - I did so because I respect him) SO my goal into going in this group is to meet as many people as possible and get access to friends of friends - people not in the group, but that are friends of the people in the group. Won't be breaking my promise this way and I'll have to level up my social skills to be more involved in these people's lives.
FRIDAY THRU SUNDAY I FOCUS ON MOSTLY NIGHT GAME
Friday
7 - 12 Work
12 - 1 Gym - MY RECOUP DAY - soaking in hot tub, rolling to loosen up muscles
1 - 10 Starbucks by campus, bars, lounges, dive bars (which I haven't checked out yet - I'm going to), comedy show, music events, hookah lounges (I've been to a few - always nice women to talk to)
Saturday
7 - 12 Class
12 - 1 Urban Egg by my campus - plenty of cute girls and people to talk to at the community tables
1 - 10
- Starbucks by campus, bars, lounges, dive bars (which I haven't checked out yet - I'm going to), comedy show, music events, clubs (which I haven't checked out yet), hookah lounges
Sunday
- Going downtown (free parking!), to the bar, hiking (a great option - time to use my photography and invite people along!)
- My relax day. Time to update the budget, relax, watch a movie, sleep in, read. Go for a walk at the park. Reboot for the following week.
ADDITIONALLY:
- Updating my Tinder profile. Will be posting on this soon.
- Revisiting the meetup groups
- Taking dance classes
I'm going to post an outing goals schedule next in an attempt to answer the question - what should I work on next from my list?
NBW