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What's up?
I didn't really get anywhere with my first journal. Too much unnecessary thinking and analyzing, too little doing. Too much ego, pride and facade, not so much authenticity.
At this point I have realized that it doesn't really matter what I think when I'm overthinking. I must take action to get anywhere. And the action I take must challenge my comfort zone. I can't play it safe all the time. Not just in the matter of seduction, but every other area of my life as well.
The last two weeks have been awesome because I'm challenging myself more and more. I can feel my long-lost drive back in me. I want to get better in every area, and I am getting better. I love it.
I'm still fighting my demons (ego, pride and facade) every day, and I still miss my fwb. We have a lot of good and sexy memories =) BUT! She is replaceable after all. I can find someone else to get new memories with, and maybe even better. But I will miss her and adore her till the end of my life.
No more analyzing feelings and thoughts.
Sticking point
I need to approach more women than I do now for reference points. When I do approach, I rarely approach more than 2 women per day. That's an awefully low number to approach on a daily basis. On the other hand, the approaches I have done until now, have taught me two things: 1. rejection doesn't matter at all, 2. my openers can be better. I'm erring on the lazy side of law of least effort. Examples:
Girl walking the opposite direction of me. Almost three steps before we were bumping into each other I open "hey! Nice style"
And she just keeps walking until she has walked two steps pass me and says "thank you" in a sceptical tone. I neither looked back nor reengaged.
An almost identical scenario happened five minutes after. "Hey! that's a gorgeous dress". No respons, no looking up. It's like she ignored my whole presence =)
Action-wise, I didn't try to stop them from walking, and I didn't reengage when they had passed me.
On the verbal side of things, well, my openers are too generic. Anyone can give a generic compliment.
But my openers has worked fine on women who were either sitting or walking the same direction as me (if they were walking faster than me and suddenly began to walk in front of me).
Keep on approaching =)
I didn't really get anywhere with my first journal. Too much unnecessary thinking and analyzing, too little doing. Too much ego, pride and facade, not so much authenticity.
At this point I have realized that it doesn't really matter what I think when I'm overthinking. I must take action to get anywhere. And the action I take must challenge my comfort zone. I can't play it safe all the time. Not just in the matter of seduction, but every other area of my life as well.
The last two weeks have been awesome because I'm challenging myself more and more. I can feel my long-lost drive back in me. I want to get better in every area, and I am getting better. I love it.
I'm still fighting my demons (ego, pride and facade) every day, and I still miss my fwb. We have a lot of good and sexy memories =) BUT! She is replaceable after all. I can find someone else to get new memories with, and maybe even better. But I will miss her and adore her till the end of my life.
No more analyzing feelings and thoughts.
Sticking point
I need to approach more women than I do now for reference points. When I do approach, I rarely approach more than 2 women per day. That's an awefully low number to approach on a daily basis. On the other hand, the approaches I have done until now, have taught me two things: 1. rejection doesn't matter at all, 2. my openers can be better. I'm erring on the lazy side of law of least effort. Examples:
Girl walking the opposite direction of me. Almost three steps before we were bumping into each other I open "hey! Nice style"
And she just keeps walking until she has walked two steps pass me and says "thank you" in a sceptical tone. I neither looked back nor reengaged.
An almost identical scenario happened five minutes after. "Hey! that's a gorgeous dress". No respons, no looking up. It's like she ignored my whole presence =)
Action-wise, I didn't try to stop them from walking, and I didn't reengage when they had passed me.
On the verbal side of things, well, my openers are too generic. Anyone can give a generic compliment.
But my openers has worked fine on women who were either sitting or walking the same direction as me (if they were walking faster than me and suddenly began to walk in front of me).
Keep on approaching =)