Working at a baby-shop makes me meet a lot of women. I do practice a lot with my eyes, and I am getting considerably better to know which girls like me and whos not into me. Usually, there's a type of girl that seems to be more into me.
*Usually artsy women, with colorful scarfs, stone earrings, and an alternative vibe.
*Yoga girls.
*Dancers, singers, and actresses.
*IT or STEM-girls (who don't have as much social awareness, but whom I find adorably geeky).
Younger women seem to hook easier as well.
Winter and work
Trying to stop women on the streets at winter, seems to be an uphill battle. They are often in a hurry and if you manage to talk to them, some of them can get a little intimidated when its dark (it gets pitch dark after 16:00 now).
So I usually talk to girls on my way to and from work, which is not as many since I am running from work to the studio or home to make some music.
So I am not putting the work as I did before as women are not my first priority right now so I know I am not getting as many results as I did last year.
Lay with my lesbian friend
So this weekend, me and my best female friend went for a trip on a boat together we only wanted to go party a little and be able to talk a lot about life, women and philosofy. Since she is a lesbian, I usually say whatever I want because I never see her as anything else than that.
But on this trip, a couple of things changed.
*I held her hand and while she was holding it back, she said; "So now we are together?" and then she let my hand go. I ignored it, of course saying that having a flirty tone with your friends make the friendship better, after all, she is a lesbian, right?
*Then we went out for a little while, we danced a litte and went for a tour around the boat. Then we bought some beers and went back to our room.
*I layed down beside her, and started touching her arm, something I did many times before while we where outside on the boat. But this time, I felt very horny without knowing what do do with it. We touched several times, she moves me away, but sooner than later it was on.
*So we had lesbian sex and anal sex (since I did not bring any condoms with me), in the morning I make her come, by having lesbian sex.
*Then I buy some condoms and we have proper, heterosexual sex.
But the thing is; when I have sex with someone I dont see as a partner, I act as if nothing happens. So we resumed things, like if this was something we only dreamt about.
......
Today I spot a fairly cute girl on my way back home from work. I start a conversation with her and it goes pretty well. Then I talk to a girl I did not manage to get anywhere with, but I learned the following things:
1. I am always nervous when speaking to a girl. It doesnt matter how long Ive been doing this, the anxiety always sets in.
2. Nowadays, I just say she's cute and say hi and my name. (More nerves on my part, Its here I believe she can ask me to fuck off!).
3. But when I explain why I think so ( could be her clothes, her smile, hair or whatever) the conversation opens a little more. If she is still nervous, I excuse myseld and say I had to go talk to her. This way I dont seem weird or out of her league.
4. Then i just continue as if nothing happened, ask her about her day, and find common ground.
From here it's all about vibing, and vibing is all about what you feel inside.
Are you horny when speaking to her? Good, she feels the same way. Are you excited? Dont be shy showing her those feelings, she will recirpocate if shes interested.
Theres something in our eyes that can transfer feeling back to her. I still dont know how to do this at will, because I have to concentrate a lot and think things to get in that mood. And that makes me forget our conversations. Sometimes silences seem good (and that works well because you create tension), but in many instances, you have to be "in the moment" while creating this vibe. And what if she is not as open for that vibe (too brainy or not concentrating enough on you?). This is still something I want to work a lot more on.
*Usually artsy women, with colorful scarfs, stone earrings, and an alternative vibe.
*Yoga girls.
*Dancers, singers, and actresses.
*IT or STEM-girls (who don't have as much social awareness, but whom I find adorably geeky).
Younger women seem to hook easier as well.
Winter and work
Trying to stop women on the streets at winter, seems to be an uphill battle. They are often in a hurry and if you manage to talk to them, some of them can get a little intimidated when its dark (it gets pitch dark after 16:00 now).
So I usually talk to girls on my way to and from work, which is not as many since I am running from work to the studio or home to make some music.
So I am not putting the work as I did before as women are not my first priority right now so I know I am not getting as many results as I did last year.
Lay with my lesbian friend
So this weekend, me and my best female friend went for a trip on a boat together we only wanted to go party a little and be able to talk a lot about life, women and philosofy. Since she is a lesbian, I usually say whatever I want because I never see her as anything else than that.
But on this trip, a couple of things changed.
*I held her hand and while she was holding it back, she said; "So now we are together?" and then she let my hand go. I ignored it, of course saying that having a flirty tone with your friends make the friendship better, after all, she is a lesbian, right?
*Then we went out for a little while, we danced a litte and went for a tour around the boat. Then we bought some beers and went back to our room.
*I layed down beside her, and started touching her arm, something I did many times before while we where outside on the boat. But this time, I felt very horny without knowing what do do with it. We touched several times, she moves me away, but sooner than later it was on.
*So we had lesbian sex and anal sex (since I did not bring any condoms with me), in the morning I make her come, by having lesbian sex.
*Then I buy some condoms and we have proper, heterosexual sex.
But the thing is; when I have sex with someone I dont see as a partner, I act as if nothing happens. So we resumed things, like if this was something we only dreamt about.
......
Today I spot a fairly cute girl on my way back home from work. I start a conversation with her and it goes pretty well. Then I talk to a girl I did not manage to get anywhere with, but I learned the following things:
1. I am always nervous when speaking to a girl. It doesnt matter how long Ive been doing this, the anxiety always sets in.
2. Nowadays, I just say she's cute and say hi and my name. (More nerves on my part, Its here I believe she can ask me to fuck off!).
3. But when I explain why I think so ( could be her clothes, her smile, hair or whatever) the conversation opens a little more. If she is still nervous, I excuse myseld and say I had to go talk to her. This way I dont seem weird or out of her league.
4. Then i just continue as if nothing happened, ask her about her day, and find common ground.
From here it's all about vibing, and vibing is all about what you feel inside.
Are you horny when speaking to her? Good, she feels the same way. Are you excited? Dont be shy showing her those feelings, she will recirpocate if shes interested.
Theres something in our eyes that can transfer feeling back to her. I still dont know how to do this at will, because I have to concentrate a lot and think things to get in that mood. And that makes me forget our conversations. Sometimes silences seem good (and that works well because you create tension), but in many instances, you have to be "in the moment" while creating this vibe. And what if she is not as open for that vibe (too brainy or not concentrating enough on you?). This is still something I want to work a lot more on.