Alex's Journal

Masterluver22

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This is my first (1st) forum report ever. I'll try to make this as short as possible.
I'm a total newbie, i've been reading pua articles and books for over 2 years now, but only in the last month or two started really actually going out somewhat regularly. So i go out with this cool dude i met up at a meetup. We had gone out a few times before. I met him tonight with his two friends from outta town. We go to a bar, leave, go to a 2nd bar, go back to the 1st one, then eventually go back to the 2nd bar, it was about 1:eek:o am at this time. I have approach about 3 girls throughout the night (one which was a 20 min good conversation-my friends were jealous ha) I chilled back for most of it. (this is where it gets good) Eventually, i see this girl at the bar, facing me directly, smiling super big, playing with her hair, her head tilted slightly. There were some people between us so i wasnt sure for the first 30 seconds or so if she was staring at me or not. Eventually i decided she was looking at me, obviously very inviting, so i told my friend i'd be back and went to approach her. (this is GOOD) I approach her and lean down and put my arm on her back.
Me: WHY ARE YOU HERE ALONE? HER: OH, I DONT KNOW. ME: WHO ARE YOU HERE WITH? HER: MY FRIEND. ME: WHERE IS YOUR FRIEND? HER: AT THE DANCEFLOOR. ME: WHY AREN'T YOU AT THE DANCEFLOOR? HER: I GUESS I DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO DANCE WITH. ME: OK, LET'S GO.
I took her hand and started leading her to the dancefloor. She eventually lead me in hand through the crowd to the dancefloor. She found her friend, hugged her, turned to me and waved for me to come to her. We started dancing. I immediately put my hands on her hips/waist and we started dancing. She was grinding on me(facing me/facing away from me) and we put our heads together, our noses also touching. We put our heads on each other shoulders. We were in complete physical contact at this point. It occurred to me it would be a total shame if i failed to kiss her, and within 30 seconds we started to make out sporadically. She even bit my upper lip. she said i was a good kisser. still grinding, still sporadic makeouts, her friend came by and seemed a little off. i asked her if my friend was ok, and she said yeah. My girl then whispered in my ear, "my friend approved". so yeah. that was it. I got her number, SHE SAID: DONT BE ONE OF THOSE GUYS WHO NEVER CALLS BACK. ME: I'LL CALL. but apparently it was an invalid #, i don't know if she did that intentionally or accidentally but that was it.

Really quick i want to put my thoughts down about the whole thing.
1. that was the most amazing moment of my life for the last 1 year bascially. that was the most physical contact i've had with a girl in a year.
2. I approached a girl, within 30 seconds took her to the dancefloor, grinded on her, and made out with her. ---the whole thing was soo surreal, but i was in heaven.
3. i dont know if i just got lucky, if i was in the right place at the right time, or i just happened to do everything right, i'm not sure, but it sure as hell motivates me to keep going out and try to make something like that happen again.
4. i've never seen a girl be soooo obvious. she was directly facing me, smiling at me, playing with her hair and her head tilted. I've never seen a girl be so obvioius before. I don't know if she just had one too many drinks, or if she just really found me attractive, but HELL! i wasn't going to question a good thing.
5. that was the most unprecedented experience for me so far in my life. that was only my 2nd girl to have ever made out with in my life.
thats all, thank you. comments are very much welcome.
 

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8/19/15 Wed night: i went alone to a bar at 9:30 and sat there for an hour drinking water, then i was back home by 11:00. It started to get really packed. The whole time i chatted up only like 4 people next to me at the bar. It was not a good night, i didn't even feel shitty necessarily, i just sat there, knowing i should've been chatting up more people, but i didn't. I kept thinking back to the makeout with the girl on friday night. That night was perfect, i gotta try to make a night like that again. I will get good at this, I have no other choice.

Till next time,
Alex.
 

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Yeah dude, those fast club makeouts are a GREAT feeling. A terrific positive reference experience. Keep it up ;) FYI though, after a club makeout they often go cold. So I wouldn't worry too much about an invalid number or whatever, she probably isn't a good prospect if you already made out. Anyway I am subscribed to your journal, looking forward to hearing more about your exploits. And certainly go talk to more people if you go out ;)
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9/4/15 Fri - So after two weeks of apathy and feeling sorry for myself, i'm back. Seriously, this will be the hardest thing i will probably ever do in my life, also the most rewarding too. Maybe i should ask God for help. Imagine, asking God to help you get good at getting girls to have sex with you. Anyways, i think i'm gonna start back up by working through Chase's ebook "How To Make Girls Chase." If i can focus on my fundamentals, and start working my way through the book, i'll be in good shape.
The last thing i wanna mention. The more i think about it, the more i realize i don't really have any other choice. It's either, wish and hope and pray that i get lucky and that a girl will randomly fall into my life (obviously never going to happen) and be sad and lonely the rest of my life, or (my only real option) I go out deliberately and intentionally every night where girls are and chat them up and build up my skill. Its one of the biggest choices i will ever make, but yet, if i actually want to live, i only have one choice. If i choose not to get good with girls, it would be out of laziness and that is a thought i am repulsed by. I'm going out tonight, just to socialize, maybe talk to a few girls. Baby steps.
Until next time,
peace out.
Alex S.
 

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Friday October 9th - Same Bar as my first makeout report. I wandered around briefly and found a comfortable spot at the surrounding tables. This was the first time i went out in a while, so i didn't put any pressure on myself to approach girls. So i just sat back and observed. I wasn't disappointed. I watched multiple groups of guys wandering around hitting on girls. Two guys came over to me and started talking. They tried to talk to this hot girl, but she was stolen by some other group of guys. The two guys by me were all bitter and wining, i thought it was funny and was laughing. Anyway, i meet couple cool more guys, they do their thing.
I noticed this "bigger girl" with her friends at the bar, but she was looking around and her eyes were wandering and i swear she shot a glance at me. A few minutes later, she comes strolling by me very slowly, & she was obviously trying to get my attention. I said "HI!", she immediately turned to me and sat next to me and we started talking. She was a little drunk, we talked. I could tell she liked me and was waiting for something to happen. I decided in my mind while talking to her that even though she was a little bigger, she had a cute face and as Chase says, "better to have been with 20 average than only 5 hotties". I ended up kissing her, and immediately we went into a 20 minute makeout session. I didn't care that she was bigger, she had a cute face and the makeout was still awesome.
She was rough, pushing herself into me, i caressed the side of her right breast. She bit my upper and lower lip multiple times and it hurt. I would pull away, look at her eyes and at her lips then kiss her again. Eventually, her friends told her they were going to leave soon, and i said she should go with them, even though she said she didn't want to. I was THIS close to almost taking her home, but i decided against it. We kissed, kissed, and then i said goodbye WITHOUT grabbing her number, and quickly fled the scene. I met up with the other guys at the beginning and we went to another bar and danced our asses off. It was a good night. I also got two beers for free! :D

1 thing i noticed about myself is: I struggled with the conversations a few times, it almost died. Then i would look at her and start dancing to the music to not make it awkward. Once we got to the physical stuff, the makeout, it was easy. I feel like I connect on a physical level more than a conversational level. I'm already a touchy guy, but the physical stuff seems so easy compared to the conversations at the beginning. Anyway, i'm glad i went out tonight.

More Chances, more reference points.
Until Next time,
Alex.
 

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Hey Alex,

Great reports here, it looks like a very promising start. You already do many things right, and good job picking up on the Indicator of Interest (second girl). It's one thing to notice it, and it's another to actually act on it in timely manner. And yes, it's a very good idea to lower your standards and bed more girls. You'll learn faster and later be in much more solid position to seduce beautiful girls.

About the kiss, it feels good to know you can approach a girl and kiss her very shortly after. It helps building confidence, and TBH I did the same. Now as Ray said, it actually counts as a failed escalation, so if you cannot take her to bed immediately after, chances are that she will grow cold. So OK for now as you build comfort and confidence.

But on your next step you will focus more on making her emotionally and physically comfortable, build her excitement after you, and then take her home. You achieve this by making her talk and talk, while at the same time increasing your touch and caresses, hands, arms, hair, neck, belly, legs. If you do it like it's natural, while she talks, she will love it and grow excited. To take her home, you just grab her hand and tell her "OK, let's go" without telling where (like if it's evident). She will know where, but if she asks, then you give some rational explanation, and lead her.

At the end of the day, it's a process. You need to have your process clearly in mind, from the beginning, to the end.

OK enough said, lol. Again, that was a great beginning! I look forward to read more.

Cheers,
Seppuku
 

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Hey Alex,

Looks like you're having loads of fun! that's awesome! Like Seppuku and Ray said, club makeout actually means nothing to the girl, but they're good validation boost for both parties lol This girl I'm seeing right now told me the other day, she would just go clubbing and makeout with guys but never bring them home or exchange number with them. She told me it's so easy for girls to get makeout in clubs especially when they're drunk lol (girls need alcohol for state as well)
 

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Re: Alex's Journal - LR

LR ----- So this is a weird unexpected Lay report. So i'll try to explain this the best i can.
My co-worker started about a month ago. A small, Cute, petite latina girl. Within a few days of her starting, i was totally into her and i could tell she liked me, but she was very experienced sexually, so i didn't expect anything to happen. We got comfortable quickly, sharing food and her putting her legs over mine sitting at the front desk. She would tease me from time to time, even backing into me and rubbing on me when the boss wasn't there.
So about a week ago, i was walking her to the train station, and stopped her, playfully dancing with her in front of the apple store, just being silly. I kissed her twice, simple kisses, nothing signifcant.
So then two days ago, we were closing down the shop. We finished up the last room, and i pulled her into me, and we started making out. I quickly picked her up and through her on the couch nearest us. We made out little bit, but she stopped me saying her friend was outside waiting to pick her up. so nothing happened.
That night she TEXTED me and said thanks for getting her all worked up right before she had to go home. She said we should get sushi (we'd been planning it) and said then we could get drinks and go over to my place (hint).
I was replaying that in my head over and over. the text and when i picked her up and made out with her on the couch.
LR --->>>>> So today was my last day at the job. So me, my sexy co-worker and my boss went out for drinks to celebrate my new job. afterwards, me and her went back to my place. she basically decided to, i didn't say anything to convince her to. We get there, drink a little wine and i pick her up and throw her on the bed. She resists little bit at first. She tells her "Secret", that she masturbated me, masturbated thinking about me. I tell her i also masturbated about her. I get on top of her, take off my shirt. She takes off hers. Then her pants. Then my pants. kissing the whole time. She asks me to dim the lights. I take off her bra and sucks her tits. Then take off her panties. I put on the first condom, but apparently it was too small. I got another. i penetrated her. She starts moaning right away, not sure why, i didn't think it would be that easy. I pull out, make my way down to eat her out, but she wouldn't let me, saying she hadn't shaved. So we go back to penetration.
I kept feeling throughout our positions that i couldn't find the perfect angle, the thrusting felt awkward to me. She was so sexy, but it just wasn't feeling good to me for some reason. We kept switching positions after a few minutes, but it didn't feel that good to me, i thought maybe it was just because of the condom. Apparently we fucked for an hour, but it felt like ten minutes. The whole time, i didn't feel like i was going to cum at all, not at all, i was still hard though. Eventually, she gives me head for about 5 minutes, i felt a little something, still not much. I started to penetrate her again, this time without a condom (stupid of me i know) she says, "are you sure?" i said, "i'm not going to cum" then we do it for a few more minutes. Then we finished, she needed to leave, takes her a long time to get home. Apparently, during the whole session, she had cum a few times and also squirted, and i hadn't been able to cum at all. I didn't know if she was for real, or if she was faking, but i took her at her word.
She said she loved it. and i did too. I told her my secret, that my ex (my first and only fuck) would only let me do anal, and she (my co=worker) was my first vagina i've ever been in.

EXTRA NOTES: I haven't had sex in a year, so this was the first time in a year. The whole thing felt SURREAL to me, like a dream. I loved it, but at the same time, i felt like, "this is it? this is what everyone says is so amazing" it didnt feel that good to me, even the blowjob didn't feel that great until the end a little bit. So i'm a little bit confused about that. Also, even doing it bare for a few minutes didn't feel amazing either, it felt okay, but not as amazing as i was expecting it to. I don't know if its because i watch a lot of porn (i try not to) or what, but i couldn't cum the entire time, not sure why. I guess its better to not cum at all than to cum too soon. But either way i enjoyed the experience and i still think she is amazing. The best part was actually just holding her entire body next to mine.

Thats, all for now. I may or may not get to do her again soon. We'll see. Sorry if its a little TMI. Comments and feedback is always welcome.

Until next time,
Alex S.
 

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Current happenings: i hooked up with my old co-worker 10 days ago (Ricardus' "don't hurt a girl, expectations" post), and she's coming over to my place tonight to hook up again - she's actually sleeping over. I have my cigarettes, i have my alcohol & mixers, a clean bathroom, clean sheets (Alek Rolstad's post) warm lighting & music (Peter Fontes' bachelor pad post). Then tomorrow night i have another girl i met at my new job, we're going to a blues bars for some music, then coming over to my place for "drinks", but I'm sure she's well aware of what will transpire. But I still feel a little NEEDY, i'm trying to have that "abundance mentality" and be cool, but i still feel a sense of neediness that i can't seem to shake...i'm doing well enough just to get by right now i think, i'll just try and make them my fwb and keep going out to meet new women.
 

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update:
So my old-coworker from my last job, the cute latina, so we hook up twice, she was amazing. Anyway so recently, like 2 days ago, she was supposed to meet up with me and stay over. She texted me and told me that she couldn't. This was the 2nd time in like 4 days she told me she couldn't. I didn't get angry, but i showed my disapointment. Anyways, she got mad at me, i got needy and desperate, since she was the only sex i was getting. I sent her one last text, telling her that i would never get into a relationship until i stopped being the desperate, needy sexless-beta male. She said something sweet. I texted her back and she didn't respond for a day and a half. I know i will never hear from her again, but as we speak i'm still texting her (even though i know i shouldn't be) trying to get her to respond. I know i fucked up but i still am making things worse by texting her. I haven't even seen her for like 20 days. I' done now. I'm hopeless lol On the bright side, i read Caleb Jone's (black dragon)'s The Unchained Man. I'm still not taking any action though....
 

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Re: Alex's Journal - LR

So Its been a while since I posted on here. Here's whats been happening for me lately:

I actually went out a lot last month. I printed out a calendar and tried to do some form of socializing everyday. I missed a few days, but I went out a lot more than I ever have before. It was interesting, just within a week or two of going out, I lost a lot of the fear I had before about going out into uncomfortable social situations. For a long time, I've been following Tyler from Real Social Dynamics, but I also follow Girls Chase quite closely as well.

I started going to a free salsa dance class every monday now. Its pretty fun, I want to get really good at dancing. I've already met a lot of women through the salsa class, that I never would have otherwise met. Salsa is a great way to meet women. I met some two cool guys there, now we go every week. We also started going to a restaurant in the city that has salsa class every wednesday night. So I went there with the guys two or three times.

Last time I went to restaurant with wednesday night salsa, I got there late. I got a club soda, finished and immediately approached a girl I saw who glanced at me. We danced for a while, she was much better than me, but I doing ok. Eventually she left. So I got a beer and was drinking it by the bar. There were two pretty latina girls standing right next to me. I didn't want to open them, i didn't think anything would come of it, but I opened them anyways. I said, "why aren't you two on the dance floor?" The one girl said, "My friend loves to dance, dance with her," so I took her friend, who's name was Yuri, a cute latina girl, out onto the dance floor. I had an unfinished beer,
so I asked the other friend to hold it or to drink it.

We danced and it was a lot of fun. I sucked, but she was having fun and said I did well. I was starting to sweat a lot, so I excuses myself to the bathroom to dry up. I came back and the friend gave me my beer back. We talked for a while; Yuri & her friend started taking snapchat pictures of me and them. Eventually Yuri & I went outside and talked. It was really nice, we had a lot in common. After about 20 minutes, we were going to head back inside, but I took her over to a bench on the other side of the street. We talked some more, and her face was 6 inches in front of me. I took her face and kissed her. We made out on the bench for about 20 minutes. I would have pulled her to my place, but the logistics were terrible. She came with her friend, and I lived a 40 min bus ride away. Eventually we went back inside the restaurant, and we made out at the bar, with 12 guys just standing around us and watching us. It was pretty funny actually. We went out to the street, they had their car, I waited for a lyft. We were still making out right up till she left.

That was a wednesday night. We planned to meet up Sunday. By friday, it felt too long, I texted her and we met up Saturday evening. As soon as we met, she kissed me. I gave her a 30 min massage, then we went to my place close by. We made a mix drink of vodka and pineapple juice. I started kissing her again. I threw her on the bed, she gave me a little light resistance, saying, "no we're going too fast, we shouldn't", with me agreeing with her, "you're right, we should probably stop" then continue to escalate. Soon after, she stripped and we did it. She stayed the night and we did it once more in the morning. I made her some breakfast, and walked her to her car, she kissed me, & left. I have now been with three (3) girls.

I think she'll coming over tomorrow. I'll continue to go out every night and socialize. I feel i'm more social & outgoing than I probably have ever been, but I still feel I could be much more outgoing & social. I'll continue to desensitize myself to certain social environments that I might find intimidating & continue to fight my fear.

Comments & Thoughts are Welcome!
Alex S.
 

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FR: Wednesday, June 14, 2017.
So I'm back at this, i'm not gonna promise I will keep this up from now on, I will only make my promise not through my words, but through my actions.
So a lot has happened lately. I broke up with my girlfriend(6 months together) about a week ago. But since I didn't see her often, it wasn't too hard to deal with. It was a clean break up, we ended on good terms.
I was ready to be single again. I decided this was my chance to finally go out and get good with women. I started going to free salsa dance classes again, and salsa social dancing. I printed out a schedule for June 2017 and wrote in a social dance class, or something every day of the week that I could go to. You see, the whole time I was dating my last girlfriend, she didn't want me dancing with other girls and I hardly ever went out and hadn't seen any friends in almost 5 months. So I was very lonely. So I wrote in a salsa social dance venue I could go to every single day of the week. I have found that for me, Salsa is the best way for me to meet people. Its fun to dance, it has a built in social context, and I can go almost everyday of the week.
So I went last thursday to one of my favorite salsa venues and met some old friends. It was great. I ended up meeting this white girl and we talked and danced for a couple hours. She was a very interesting person, but I wasn't into her since I rarely am attracted to white girls, my types are almost strictly latina and asian. But since it had been so long since I connected with people and had long conversations, I enjoyed connecting with her.
Then I went to the same place on Monday for a free salsa dance class. I met this beautiful asian girl who at first I thought was a bitch, cuz when I danced with her she didn't smile hardly at all. But after the class ended, and the social dancing began, I randomly started talking to her. We danced for a bit, and she said she wanted a drink, so we went down to the bar. We got drinks, shared some chips and talked. She said she would text me something we talked about, and she told me to give her my number. She made it very clear that she had a boyfriend though. So we talked and she was touching me at times, and I was just glad to connecting with this beautiful asian girl. We ended up talking to almost midnight and we walked through downtown Chicago for a bit and we said our goodbyes.
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I learned my lesson today.
I went shopping for some clothes yesterday and stopped at Chick-fil-A. I sat down and was eating, when my eye caught this latina girl staring at me. We played cat and mouse with our eyes for a few minutes. I was thinking I should approach her, she was just sitting by herself eating. She was super cute. Hair in a high bun, she kinda reminded me of a girl who I hooked up with twice, a petite latina.
She ended up leaving, and I followed her out the door with my eyes. She walked away past the glass window, she look at me and smiled knowing I was staring at her.
I left a minute later, and headed down to the red line underground. I picked a spot against a support pillar and leaned against it. I saw her on the other side of the tracks between the concrete wall. I waved to her and she smiled and waved back. She was walking back and forth waiting for her train. I just kept staring at her. She looked up multiple times and smiled at me.
I knew I had made a huge mistake not approaching her and saying hello at the restaurant. She seemed super cool.

I hope I feel the pain of this deeply. I hope from now on I'll make sure I never let another amazing opportunity like this slip through my hands again. What could have been if I had just moved over to her and asked to join her...lovers? Dating? I'll never know.
From now on, I resolve to never let fear hold me back from getting what I want. I will take the risk, and seize the opportunity. If the girl doesn't want to talk to me, find, at least I tried. But if I let fear hold me back and not take action, I'm giving up on myself and her, and missing whatever amazing experiences the future could've had for me.
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Its amazing how much my confidence, my thoughts, and my perceptions have changed just after FOUR days of going out, not even in a row. I feel much more confident, I feel like my conversational skills have improved just after a few days of going out. Just IMAGINE what changes would happen in my mind If I went out for a month, two months, three months straight. I believe the changes would be profound. I'm going to keep going to salsa social dances everyday. I put in 2 top clubs downtown Chicago on Friday and Saturday. I am mostly going to try to do this to desensitize myself to that type of environment, as I find it to be a little intimidating.
I am not quite ready to cold approach on the street yet, even though I could've easily approach that girl in the restaurant. I think If I just go out consistently everyday, within a few weeks, I will feel much more confident and ready to start approaching women on the street during the day, and I won't feel the crippling fear that I used to feel all the time. I have also stopped watching porn, and I have also stopped masturbating - I think that has also made an enormous difference.

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

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Monday June 19, 2017

Went to go to do salsa tonight, but the restaurant the class was in was closed. So a group of people gathered outside expecting to do salsa, but the place was closed, so we hung around for a little while. I met two cool girls, and we went with another lady to go get some food. It was fun, made a few friends.

What tonight made me think of though, was that, the fun thing about going out is that you have no idea whats going to happen. You have no idea where the night will take you, who you will meet. Every night is an adventure. And that's precisely why you should go out every night, because the more you go out, the higher the chances something awesome will happen to you, and the more cool people (and girls) you're likely to meet.

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

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Tuesday, June 21, 2017

Had a great social day! Hung out with an old friend, then went to Salsa on the usual place on Tuesdays. Danced with tons of girls, talked to lots of people, it was a great day/night. Its interesting how I can sort of see things and friends starting to materialize around me, when they weren't there before. Of course, this is still early on in the game, and I'm only starting to go out more now. My main social goals are 1) Make friends 2) get laid 3) get good at salsa/bachata. It might be another couple of weeks or even months before I get laid again. But I'm in it for the long haul, and I understand things take time. I'm still not used to be so social.
Anyways, great day of socializing.

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

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Wednesday June 22, 2017

I had plans to go out to 2 salsa venues tonight. Before I left, I went to a coffee shop nearby and got a smoothy. Sitting outside, i sat near a girl on her ipad or something. After a few minutes, she asked me If I lived around here. I said yeah. She asked good places to eat, so I told her. I chatted a little with her, but she seemed aloof or something. After another minute, she asked me about a bar nearby. I said goodluck and left. I wasn't sure if she was hitting on me or what, but it was strange.

So I go to the 1st salsa venue. I'm early, so I go to the 2nd place and drink a modelo. I need to stop drinking when I go out. I waste a lot of money. I go back to the 2nd place, where a girl I met yesterday told me about. I was too scared to go in for some reason, but she saw me from inside and came out and brought me in. We did the salsa lesson and then social dancing. I danced with her and talked with her, she was super cool, but I wasn't really attracted to her and she was with her sister and brother in law.
After about 10:30pm, I said goodbye and went back to the 2nd venue. I got a drink and awkwardly stood there watching people dance to the music. The place started to get packed, and a bunch of beautiful girls started to come in. I got stuck in a rut and didn't talk to anyone. I chatted for a few seconds with 2 girls, and then I left.
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I made the mistake of not talking to people right away. I've made this mistake too many times. I feel I'm getting more social, but I still am shy and have so much further to go.

It might be a long while before I get laid again, unfortunately. And I still have yet to do a cold approach lately. That to me is the hardest part, approaching girls on the street is super intimidating. I can approach a girl at a bar alright, but out on the street its very scary.

Anyways, peace out.
Alex S.
 

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Thursday June 23, 2017

Another night of salsa dancing. It was a great night! I went to a new salsa venue and met a cool dude who's taking dance lessons. I spent approximately three and a half hours there. My friend that I met at another dancing venue, she came and we danced for a while. I took a lyft home, and the girl sitting next to me, it turns out lives in the building right next door to me, and we're both from the same city in Wisconsin! That was amazingly random and strange, but she was super cool.

A Great night of socializing.

Tomorrow is Friday, and on my schedule for Friday (and Saturday) I go to the clubs downtown Chicago. I find nightclubs to be intimidating, however my hope is that if I go to the clubs 2x a week, every week, soon I will be even more confident and social, and I will have extended my comfort zone and will no longer find nightclubs intimidating.

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

Masterluver22

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Friday, June 23, 2017

I went out for "day game" this late afternoon...actually I just walked around for 2 miles and got tired and went home. I have at least 3-5 different opportunities where I passed a beautiful girl walking by herself downtown. I missed another great opportunity earlier today as well.
What I noticed is the crucial time when doing day game is at the very beginning. The first 20 minutes determines the course of the rest of the day game session. If I approach the first girl, then another then another, I'll be in a great mood and will approach more. However, If I pass up the 1st girl, then the next and the next, then I won't approach any girl and I will just go home feeling miserable and like a failure. In the beginning, I'm either building up positive momentum or negative momentum, approaching momentum or non-approaching momentum.
I think if I just had another ounce of courage, i'd be able to roll up quickly before my brain interjects, and chat up the girl. I work during the day, but whenever I have the time and chance, I will go out and do day game.
So I went home after "day game" and I was discouraged. I sat at a outdoor patio for a while as it got dark. I'm just thinking to myself, "how is it that I'm still alone all the time. I have hardly any real friends, I don't have any girls...I need to stop feeling bad for myself and start taking fucking action."
I went home planning on going to the clubs that evening, however I laid on my bed for a few minutes and I fell asleep and didn't wake up till 1:30am. Then I just went to bed.
Alright, tomorrow is Saturday. I'll make sure I go out tomorrow. No excuses, no matter how afraid or scared I feel.

I am going to get good at this. I have no other option, there is no other alternative. I will get good with girls. I have no choice in the matter. I will make myself go out every night until I get the courage to approach a girl, then I will approach another and another until I'm an approach machine. I will change my life, whatever it takes. Its DO or DIE.

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

Masterluver22

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Saturday July 16, 2017
Today was a CRAZY day for me. I went out daygaming in the evening, and FINALLY approached my first approach on the street, at 9:00 pm. I just said to myself, feel the fear, let it flow through you. I went and approached her, TOTALLY weirded her out. I went direct and told her she was cute and I just had to say hi. I went to shake her hand, and she didn't reciprocate. I asked her if she was single and she said she was, but was leaving to D.C. tommorrow. I made a comment, she was still totally weirded out, so I said, alright have a good night and I bailed. I do not care that it was bad, this was my first approach in almost 2 years, as I've been struggling with approach anxiety for so long. I was so proud of myself for making this approach. Anyway, I went back home, and acouple hours later I made myself to go out again even though I didn't feel like it.
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I went to River North, which usually makes me freak out, get stuck in my head and not take any action. However, today I decided to do something different and to wait in the line outside for Social 25 club. I started chatting up this Thai girl and her three other Thai girl friends. We kept talking till we got in, and I stuck with them, dancing our asses off the rest of the night. Eventually, her other friends all left and left her alone with me (Not sure if they planned it or not).
We started dancing really close, our faces inches apart. I started looking at her in the eyes, she started smiling. I pulled her in close to me till our bodies were touching. I moved my head towards her and she started to close her eyes. I kissed her and we started making out. We made out for a bit, then we went back to dancing close for a while. At one point she asked me, "Why me?" I said, "I just felt like we had a strong connection" which was true. We started grinding on each other facing each other. I turned her around (still dancing in the club) and she started grinding on me. We made out some more and she said, "We can't do this all night, I have an exam tommorrow." So I grabbed her hand and lead her out of the club. Made out with her and talked with her at the bus stop. Unfortunately, I was not able to get her back to my place, but she was we would meet next Saturday. Ugh! The chances of us getting together now are much slimmer. We parted ways and we texted a few lines and said goodnight.
I can't believe this happened to me. I went out expecting nothing to happen, and to come home all depressed.This was an amazing night for me. My goal tonight was not to hit on girls, but to actually just dance my ass off and have a great time and be completely free from outcome, which I did. But I just decided to wait in line for the club and try to chat up some of the girls. Another thing that boggles my mind is how 1 decision I made (to go out even though I didn't want to) made my whole night completely different. I've committed myself to going out everyday, and Thursday, Friday and Saturday go to the clubs - main reason is that clubs and night life still freak me out sometimes and I wanted to get completely comfortable being in nightclubs.
If I've learned anything so far, its that most of my previous assumptions about girls ect are wrong. I shouldn't make assumptions about girls, or anything else, because as long as you're taking action and pushing yourself, you're in for wonderful surprises.
Hopefully, I will get to see this girl again and make something happen. But whatever happens, I'm entirely free from outcome.

Comments and feedback is welcomed!

Cheers,
Alex S.
 

Masterluver22

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LR: Hey guys, whats up. Its been a long time since I've posted to this forum, but I'll never forget Girslchase. So I need to update this journal with one lay that happened two years ago and then a long term relationship which I'm still currently in.

So back in 2017, I was doing social salsa dancing very frequently. Every Tuesday I think, I would go to Alhambra Indian palace restaurant with a huge dance floor. Its averaged over 200 people a week every time I would go there. So I did the free class, and the social dancing till wee hours of the night.

I would see a lot of the same people every week and made a lot of nice acquaintances that way. I kept seeing this one girl. She had black hair, looked Latina, but turns out she was from the Middle East.We would say hey! and start dancing; she seemed super cool, she had a sassy attitude that I really liked, I felt like there was a different kind of energy between us, yet I didn't think much of it at the time. Then one time at Alhambra, while the dance floor was packed with people, I met her again and we danced. Then we went and sat down on the stairs of the front stage. We were talking about I forget. I remember her saying something like she wondered if she could have any man she wanted. I remember saying, "you're beautiful, you could have any guy you want." She thanked me. I got her number at some point as well.

Then maybe a week later, we were going to go dancing at a different location, but she texted me saying it was dead so she probably wasn't going to go. I replied, ah that's a shame, I was hoping that we could have some time together...alone. She replied, "well, then I guess it doesn't matter if its dead then." So we agreed to both go dancing and meet each other there.

So I met her there and we danced for a long while and it was fun. Then I decided to move things along. I took her hand and lead her outside the mall to a bench. We talked and I think I put my hand on her leg and grasped her inner thigh. We kept talking and flirting. Then I lead her around the corner to another bench away from the mall. I put her on the bench and stood in front of her, face to face. We started making out and she was super into it. I did the move I always love to do, where I kiss her, then pull back, look into her eyes and then look down at her lips and kiss her again. She started kissing me fiercely hard. She said I was so fucking adorable. She said she wasn't going to have sex with me that night. I told her I wouldn't judge her, that my ex girlfriend slept with me on the 1st date. She said she imagined us having sex in an apartment across the street from us and how hot it would be. She said she needed at least 2 dates with me, so we set up a date. She planned it.

Our date a few days later was in the viagra triangle in Chicago, at a cheap margarita place. I met her there and we sat in the 2nd floor, and drank tons of margaritas. We sat there talking, drinking margaritas and looking at the city skyline. The conversation was turning sexual and it was pretty hot. I remember at one point she told me to grab her tit, so I, sitting next to her on the right, grabbed her right tit and told her how amazing it felt. I'm pretty sure there were some people who heard us and were staring at us from behind. I told her if there weren't people sitting at that long table, I would push all the plates off the table and would fuck her on the table. She was super into it.

Eventually she decided to come home with me, even though it was the 1st date and we took an uber home. I talked with the taxi driver the whole time, feeling confident as I was about to get laid. We got to my place and we got naked and got into bed. We turned the lights off and went to bed. I realized I had a case of whiskey dick, as I couldnt' get my dick hard. Anyways, long story short we had sex, but I couldn't rly get hard, and she thought, "you're too young to have this sort of problem," not realizing it was from the margaritas. We slept a little bit together that night, but she said she had to go. I wanted her to stay, she thought it was cute, but left.

Anyways, we hung out again a few days later and got gorilla sushi on clark near my place. Then we went home and got into bed together. She pressed her ass so tight against me under the sheets, as I spooned her. I then started kissing her body and worked my way down to her ass. I kissed her ass repeatedly and rubbed my face between her ass cheeks, pretty hot. She said, okay then, we'll have sex. I got a condom on and we did it. First I put her legs over her head and penetrated her, but that wasn't too comfortable for her, so we did doggie style and eventually I bust a nut in her (I had a condom). Later the next day she texted me and said thanks for a great night last night.

Notes: She was an amazing sexy woman. She was super cool. She knew I was seeing other women, but she didn’t care. She was like 4 years older than me, she was like 30 or 31. I was also seeing a Thai girl at the same time who was kinda living with me, but not all the time. Eventually, the Thai girl found out I was seeing this girl, and she was ready to dump me. I ended up making the Thai girl my girlfriend and had to stop seeing this girl. I felt really bad about it. I wished it didn't had to end that way, I really liked this girl a lot but, well, it happened anyways. Now that I think about it, I should have stopped seeing the Thai girl, but well its complicated cuz she’s my fiancé. But that’s for another post.

All comments are welcome, thanks!
 
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