Severe Premature ejaculation

Spyce D

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I have had sex like 3 times now ( in past month , no longer a virgin ) and every time I was Cumming pretty quickly . We are talking about 1-2 minutes .

It sucks tbh .

I have no issues with Ed .

It kind of brought my confidence down .

Could it be due to my phimosis ?? Or lifestyle ??

It just feels so embarrassing ..... Maybe this is the reason why I avoided escalation with girls .

Is there any cure to it without pills ?
 

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How long ago did you lose your virginity? If its quite recent, you just need to get more exposure, and learn how your body reacts to things.

I doubt its phimosis because isn't that where you can't retract your foreskin? Retracting your foreskin increases your sensitivity, so not being able to retract it works in your favour here.

Other things to do
  • Read Sex God Manual by Daniel Rose - got some good tips in there, particularly around 'immersion' of just being focussed on the act of sex itself, and your own pleasure, you will get out of your own head about things
  • If you think you might get laid that day, masturbate the morning of (or even a couple of hours before). Yes it will kill your testosterone, but may make you feel more confident. I know some people say no fap so you are full of testosterone and more likely to go for the kill, but you also don't want to have 3 days worth of load in you before you have sex, becaue if you are already pranging about your PE, this is not going to hep things
  • Focus on foreplay and giving the girl a good experience. I suspect opinions will differ here, but 'just fuck her brains out' is not going to work for you here. In my experience, most girls are pretty forgiving if you cum a bit quickly, as long as you have given them a good experience otherwise, and made sure she has come. Unpopular opinion maybe, but sex is more than just orgasming. My most recent girlfriend couldn't come vaginally, but could come from oral - however, a lot of the times we had sex, she wanted me to skip the oral and just go straight in, because for her, she valued the intimacy of it. But as a general rule, first time I have sex with a girl, I always go down on her and make sure she has come at least once from oral, so at least if i come early, I'm shown i'm not a selfish lover.
 

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Too aroused maybe? I’d just do a google search on ways to last longer, doubt it’s anything out of the ordinary.

Try not to get too turned on during the foreplay stage, and find ways to calm down when you feel like you’re reaching that point of no return. Like pulling out and doing something else e.g massaging her clit. Pace yourself
 

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It just takes deliberate practice.

Unfortunately this sometimes means being taken out of the moment and the pleasure to be mindful of your arousal level and how close you are. But once you build that skill you can enjoy yourself much more.

If you pay attention to how you feel, just slow down or stop when you’re getting close. You might have to communicate with the girl if you break the rhythm too much, but I’ve never found it to interrupt the rhythm. When I slow down, I just make it part of the dance.

Don’t sweat it. Takes practice. I remember I used to have to be very careful until about 10 minutes in and then for some reason it would flip and I could not cum if I tried.

Now I can usually go as long as I want, but still sometimes go over the edge way too quick. The point is, it’s normal to find it a bit difficult to last long, but it’s definitely something you can master through practice.

I’d look up sexual kung fu on YouTube. Men have been working on this issue since ancient times.
 

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I have had sex like 3 times now ( in past month , no longer a virgin ) and every time I was Cumming pretty quickly . We are talking about 1-2 minutes .

It sucks tbh .

I have no issues with Ed .

It kind of brought my confidence down .

Could it be due to my phimosis ?? Or lifestyle ??

It just feels so embarrassing ..... Maybe this is the reason why I avoided escalation with girls .

Is there any cure to it without pills ?
Try to desensitize your cock a bit
1) jerk off (but not to porn)
2) use thicker condoms
3) put on a lot of lube before penetration (less attrition means less skin stimuli)
4) think about this chick when you feel the urge:

Lizzo-2021-billboard-1548.jpg
 

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premature ejaculation is often caused by hyper tension in the pelvic floor (particularly the perineum). Familiarize yourself with the muscular anatomy of the area. Research stretches and exercises that relax and open the area (and surrounding areas). Get a competent body worker to work on the surrounding areas (I recommend someone who does structural integration). Buy a massage tool you can insert into your anus and gently massage the musculature from the inside out. Gently massage your prostate. In your everyday life, don't pucker your butt hole Throughout the day remind yourself to relax the area.

The deeper you can relax pathologies of tension in this area the less you should deal with this issue.
 

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My take (but I've never had this issue): this is a symptom of anxiety.

It seems you are nervous about sex. Address this internal condition with external actions and things will get better.

The goal here is to move toward relaxation.
 

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Hey Spyce, what's your approximate lay count and regular sex life like?

I had this issue bad, even if I jacked off beforehand. It very quickly and naturally went away once I ramped up my sex life. I think part of it was generally getting used to the stimulation.

I am pretty sure I read once that the refractory period is lessened if you fuck a different girl, like the body will jump at the chance to impregnate someone else, but it may be an inefficient use of resources to double cum quick in a girl.

Now if you're increasing the quality of the girls you're laying, maybe the brain is recognizing it and quickly gives you three loads and increase the odds of pregnancy with this rare bird.

So sure you can meditate or relax the muscles like someone said (sounds like a good idea), but I think consistent exposure to sex with multiple women will treat the root of the cause.

This is why I still fuck a fast food fry cook in the back seat of my car once a week. I've had two recent dates with girls doing their PhD's and let's just say one did not call me back after an extremely smooth seduction. I don't like that you could either have a long term connection or get ghosted depending on how tingly your dick feels that day.

So maybe lower your standards and get fucking if you're not already sleeping a couple girls on the regular.
 

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premature ejaculation is often caused by hyper tension in the pelvic floor (particularly the perineum).

In your everyday life, don't pucker your butt hole Throughout the day remind yourself to relax the area.

Don’t disregard this ^ @Spyce D. I came in literally one stroke with my first body (lmao) and less then 5 minutes for my next 2.

I discovered relaxing my butthole and perineum naturally and now I sometimes cant even come if I want to 20 minutes in. Makes your erections harder too
 

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Fuck sorry dude I was skimming quick on my phone and completely glazed over your first sentence.

You've had sex three times in life? I wouldn't worry about this at all. You very likely have no issue whatsoever and it will fix itself.

I would recommend finding an older woman you can have completely uncomplicated casual ongoing sex with. She'll be less wet and less hot than the young girls and you can get some practice in.
 

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Premature ejaculation is a common issue, affecting as many as 1 in 3 men. Reaching orgasm (coming) sooner than you or your partner would like can be frustrating and upsetting. Although studies show that partners tend to be less worried about premature ejaculation than those who experience it. sex việt

Initial remedies can include masturbating before intercourse, distraction methods, pelvic floor exercises, or wearing a condom. Alternatively, medical treatments include topical numbing creams or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). The definition of premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates sooner during intercourse than he wants to, which can be bothersome to him. Some men have trouble controlling their orgasm from the moment they start having intercourse, while other men consider five to 10 minutes of penetration before they orgasm too little time.
 

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I have had sex like 3 times now ( in past month , no longer a virgin ) and every time I was Cumming pretty quickly . We are talking about 1-2 minutes .

It sucks tbh .

I have no issues with Ed .

It kind of brought my confidence down .

Could it be due to my phimosis ?? Or lifestyle ??

It just feels so embarrassing ..... Maybe this is the reason why I avoided escalation with girls .

Is there any cure to it without pills ?
i wrote about this:

Another trick if natural and not pills is to:

-bang her, as you are about to cum, no yet dam you look so good and eat her out...
- follow the above instruction couple of times
- after 3 times your dick will get so pissed at you and will last a lot.... Problem is at times you end up busting when trying to stop,it is hard to do, second problems if you succeed sometimes the dick goes limp....

If you really like the girl and you have onitis, i have read every book on sex and there is not stronger method that what i teach in my dark seduction post when it comes to sex.... (i know sex god by ross and i recommend it) but that technique if done corrected should get the girl hooked is extremely powerful just use on onitis type girls/potential main candidate, don't use if you want fuck buddies....

 

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I have had sex like 3 times now ( in past month , no longer a virgin ) and every time I was Cumming pretty quickly . We are talking about 1-2 minutes .

It sucks tbh .

I have no issues with Ed .

It kind of brought my confidence down .

Could it be due to my phimosis ?? Or lifestyle ??

It just feels so embarrassing ..... Maybe this is the reason why I avoided escalation with girls .

Is there any cure to it without pills ?


You just have to slow down. Most males can ejaculate in a minute or two if they really want to, although a few take far longer.
Generally, the younger you are the faster you will reach orgasm.
Take your time. Don’t use porn. Just use your imagination.
 
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