I read the article by chase around how to handle women flaking and not to make a big deal out of it and agree with it. But I was wondering if it should be handled any differently when you have been seeing the women a while and are supposed to be in a relationship. If you think that they are just cancelling because their interest level has dropped towards you, how should you respond? Should it be treated exactly the same way as if it was a new girl or should it be handled a bit differently? In my situation in the past, I handled it as if it was no big deal but I can't help think that this just further added to her losing interest and made me look weak.
An example is I got something like this 10 minutes before we were meant to meet: Iv been up since 4 and I am totally shattered so I'm not going to make it today. In the queue for this shop then going home to sleep.
I responded with Aww ok I just got up and washed. You could have told me earlier and I would have stayed in bed. I set an alarm and everything.
She said: I didn't think you would get up until the last min like last time so didn't want to wake you up. Anyway sorry, I can't make it, it's out of my control.
I can't help thinking I should have been a lot more firm and said something along the lines of:
Look if you're in a relationship with me and we make plans then I expect you to keep them. Catch you later..
An example is I got something like this 10 minutes before we were meant to meet: Iv been up since 4 and I am totally shattered so I'm not going to make it today. In the queue for this shop then going home to sleep.
I responded with Aww ok I just got up and washed. You could have told me earlier and I would have stayed in bed. I set an alarm and everything.
She said: I didn't think you would get up until the last min like last time so didn't want to wake you up. Anyway sorry, I can't make it, it's out of my control.
I can't help thinking I should have been a lot more firm and said something along the lines of:
Look if you're in a relationship with me and we make plans then I expect you to keep them. Catch you later..