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Re: Attracting People Around Me

It's been a while. But my handicap with meeting new people still comes up from time to time, and sometimes on autopilot. One thing I'm not certain why I'm still doing, is forcing rapport .I also talked about it in my previous post. I was introduced to a new internship recently, and some of the new g...
by Lover
Fri Oct 18, 2019 1:13 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Attracting People Around Me
Replies: 4
Views: 201

Re: What's the ideal reply time in terms of messages?

If you take too long to reply - do girls really perceive that you're "playing the game" with them? Experienced women and women otherwise obsessed with men and mating, most likely. Inexperienced women might just think you're not interested or too busy to care about her - essentially same s...
by Lover
Wed Oct 16, 2019 3:17 pm
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: What's the ideal reply time in terms of messages?
Replies: 7
Views: 97

Re: What's the ideal reply time in terms of messages?

I've moved on from "replying after x amount of time" because girls are not stupid. It doesn't matter how much they like you, you have to show some interest and move things forward. Otherwise she knows you're playing, and if she played that game or had other guys play that game, she knows w...
by Lover
Wed Oct 16, 2019 8:30 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: What's the ideal reply time in terms of messages?
Replies: 7
Views: 97

Re: A Lover's Adventures

Met a girl at friend's housewarming. Could have pulled, conversation felt natural. Talked about politically incorrect stuff and bonded mostly on that, even went as far as to sex talk (nowhere the level of Alek - I didn't stimulate her senses enough). Signs from her were not completely there, but had...
by Lover
Fri Oct 11, 2019 10:43 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Re: Do certain texts have certain meanings

Some girls use these lines to signal non-interest, from what I've seen it's usually girls in their teenage years that get a lot of interest from guys. Then some girls do it because they mean it, and maybe there is more to it, maybe there is not. But it's not reliable to use that as an indicator of i...
by Lover
Sat Oct 05, 2019 1:00 pm
 
Forum: Phone Calls and Texting
Topic: Do certain texts have certain meanings
Replies: 1
Views: 40

A Sad Ending Between Lovers

Cherry and I are over. In the summer we went on vacation and had one day with a big fight which we solved. I don't remember the specifics, I think we both made mistakes that should not have been made. But like always, we talked it out. After we got home, that's where shit really hit the fan. Her anx...
by Lover
Tue Sep 24, 2019 2:49 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Re: What do you do when a girl you've been sleeping with starts getting emotiona

@Timtobbler No rulebook. I'm simply suggesting what is, imo, the best frame to operate from. Why? Because chances are it is something you have done to make it an emotional thing for her. Maybe setting the frame as "not into relationship, I also sleep with other girls" was seen as a challen...
by Lover
Tue Sep 24, 2019 12:12 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: What do you do when a girl you've been sleeping with starts getting emotional?
Replies: 4
Views: 128

Re: Don't understand how this didn't send her running?

Who is saying that it will be a good relationship if this is the way they communicate in the dating phase.. who is saying the sex they had was all that good.. And if this works for him... could that mean the girl herself operates from a scarcity mindset and tolerates this kind of behavior more? Thes...
by Lover
Mon Sep 09, 2019 7:56 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Don't understand how this didn't send her running?
Replies: 6
Views: 133

Re: What do you do when a girl you've been sleeping with starts getting emotiona

It's not friends with benefits (FWB) when you "hang out for a bit" every time you meet. You only hang out the first time you meet and close the deal by sleeping together as soon as possible. Every meeting after that, you meet directly at either her or your place. No hanging out. She isn't ...
by Lover
Mon Sep 09, 2019 7:45 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: What do you do when a girl you've been sleeping with starts getting emotional?
Replies: 4
Views: 128

How do you give great advice?

A year or two ago, Chase posted something in the forum about how to create posts that make other users want to answer you. I thought a post like that was neat at the time. And yesterday it got me thinking... how do you even give great advice? This is something I see over and over, not just on the bo...
by Lover
Sat Aug 03, 2019 4:27 am
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: How do you give great advice?
Replies: 0
Views: 93

Re: Does game actually work for ugly guys? Tell personal experience please

In high school I didn't care too much about my looks and fashion because I was working too hard to getting good grades and getting accepted to the national team of my sport. Yet, I ended up sleeping with one of my friends on and off for 6 years since high school. She was once talking to her friend a...
by Lover
Sun Jul 28, 2019 5:06 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Does game actually work for ugly guys? Tell personal experience please
Replies: 6
Views: 284

Re: I'm a mess. Please, help!

She will be thinking in the rest of her life that she couldn't get better than what she has. You have some mental models you need to change the way I see it. No, she will not think about this for the rest of her life. As a matter of fact, most girls move on quicker than guys, especially once they f...
by Lover
Sun Jul 28, 2019 4:22 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: I'm a mess. Please, help!
Replies: 27
Views: 721

Re: Girlfriend close with ex boyfriend

I don't know if you saw, but if he sent the messages over the span of, say, a month, she is most likely ignoring him. And if he sent them within a couple of minutes, it might have just been something he did then and there. Even if they have an ongoing conversation, I would say don't worry. Sounds li...
by Lover
Fri Jun 14, 2019 5:59 pm
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Girlfriend close with ex boyfriend
Replies: 3
Views: 287

Re: Is this needy or attractive? Bit of both?

I think you're overthinking. Sometimes, one single action can be the moment that kills the tension between you and the girl. Your case is not one of them. Why? Because it sounds like the overall frame is you being an attractive man and just taking what you want, and they follow your lead. You puttin...
by Lover
Sat Jun 01, 2019 3:04 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Is this needy or attractive? Bit of both?
Replies: 2
Views: 119

Re: How to get over embarrassing yourself?

Get comfortable with the fact that it won't be your last time fucking up. You will embarrass yourself over and over. It's part of life. No need to take a break from game (or anything really) because of embarrassing moments. Learn to laugh at them instead.
by Lover
Sat Jun 01, 2019 2:30 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: How to get over embarrassing yourself?
Replies: 5
Views: 191

Re: Cooling Off Period?

"Hey [GIRL'S NAME], I don't think I can meet up with you anymore..." "Sorry about that, mkay?" "Sorry about that" and no explanation ;D You don't sound like you really mean it haha "Aww, that's too bad :( Are you free on Saturday then?" And this girl isn't ev...
by Lover
Tue Apr 30, 2019 12:07 pm
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Cooling Off Period?
Replies: 5
Views: 227

Re: Awkward girl on Tinder

Although I agree with FT, remember that some girls won't give their numbers no matter what. Some phones can't block numbers, and if she had (or is having) bad experience with some creep, she probably won't give it. I once asked for a Tinderella's number after an okay conversation. She made some effo...
by Lover
Fri Apr 12, 2019 1:15 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Awkward girl on Tinder
Replies: 4
Views: 142

Re: Seeing a girl at work. Hot and Cold. Flaking

Welcome on the boards, slimjim! The following I'm about to tell you, is when I'm not considering the whole context and story between the two of you. When she tells you stuff like “ I’m free next weekend” And when stuff like this happens: and then I ask her out again and I get a seemingly enthusiasti...
by Lover
Mon Apr 08, 2019 1:20 pm
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Seeing a girl at work. Hot and Cold. Flaking
Replies: 37
Views: 1327

Re: Why seduction is easier when you travel, and best approach

Proactivity wrote:I am not a believer in the fact that "game", no matter how good, can overcome social biases.


Then I don't get why you're posting on a forum where guys are taught how to improve the fundamentals that are improvable, and accept the fundamentals that are set from your birth
by Lover
Mon Apr 08, 2019 11:41 am
 
Forum: Tactics & Techniques
Topic: Why seduction is easier when you travel, and best approach
Replies: 19
Views: 1910

Re: What should I do with this girl?

Wouldn't it feel like settling if you ended up becoming monogamous to her? That's what I think.. Find a girl that 1) you're compatible with, and 2) is willing to go along with your program once you have to have "the talk". You could keep in touch with this girl if that's what you want, but...
by Lover
Fri Apr 05, 2019 6:31 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: What should I do with this girl?
Replies: 1
Views: 74

Re: Girlfriend with blatant disrespect over text. Is it worth breaking up over?

First, let's talk about her. From the way you write the story, she really didn't give a fuck about the other guy at any time. If she's like 99% of girls, she didn't want to hurt the guy's feelings and hoped he would "get it" that she's off the market. This is just how they reject guys. The...
by Lover
Fri Apr 05, 2019 6:10 pm
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Girlfriend with blatant disrespect over text. Is it worth breaking up over?
Replies: 1
Views: 210

Re: The truth about social life, dating and making friends.

A lot of harsh truths in this post. Good one. One thing I wonder about, and Hue mentioned it as well I do partially blame the pickup seduction material teaching men to go out, approach random women until one says yes, and then sleep with her without the intention of doing anything else. Are you talk...
by Lover
Mon Mar 25, 2019 8:39 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: The truth about social life, dating and making friends.
Replies: 10
Views: 494

Re: Attracting People Around Me

The last couple of weeks have been interesting. I sometimes make unfiltered statements and don't consider the context or relationship to other people. 1) Like how I worked in the hospital the other night and heard one of the young nurses snore in front of her computer watching a tv series (it was 4 ...
by Lover
Mon Mar 18, 2019 6:15 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Attracting People Around Me
Replies: 4
Views: 201

Re: Girl wants to assert dominance

You just answered my signature :D Hope things will turn out better
by Lover
Fri Mar 15, 2019 6:52 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Girl wants to assert dominance
Replies: 4
Views: 215

Re: Missing out on the social experience of college still haunts me, here's why.

Are you always going to be a slave to the norms of American culture? Honestly, all I see in your posts is that you wish you had the average life of an American college student. But if you ain't going back to college, your time is up. You had your chance and missed it. You won't be average. Game over...
by Lover
Fri Mar 08, 2019 3:37 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Missing out on the social experience of college still haunts me, here's why.
Replies: 60
Views: 2660

Re: Issues on my part in bed

So we talked, I realized the porn problem is deeper than I thought and when I see a real beauty it is not actual attraction, it is actually intimidation by her looks. Can you elaborate on this? She told me later that night that she slept with 57 people. Started at 15. Has 3 degrees, 2 masters and i...
by Lover
Tue Mar 05, 2019 2:03 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Issues on my part in bed
Replies: 8
Views: 610

Re: Issues on my part in bed

Sounds awesome, Michael! Hope things have gone better since your last post.

Have you tried to prolong your foreplay as well?
by Lover
Tue Feb 19, 2019 2:48 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Issues on my part in bed
Replies: 8
Views: 610

Re: Issues on my part in bed

This is not scientifically proven yet, but I read about an Iranian study where men with low sperm count ate different kind of anti-oxidants to increase their testosterone and their sperm count through life style. Guess a vegetable that could increase them? Raw onion . I decided one day in 2017 or 20...
by Lover
Wed Jan 30, 2019 1:26 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Issues on my part in bed
Replies: 8
Views: 610

Re: FORUM UPGRADE: Help us pick the new forum logo

Hands in pocket
by Lover
Sat Jan 12, 2019 4:47 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: FORUM UPGRADE: Help us pick the new forum logo
Replies: 31
Views: 2142

Re: clingy girlfriend might catch me cheating, i tried to dump her but she wont

she even threatened to cut herself, and also to go on hunger strike. Time to break up. For good. If necessary, block her number, messenger etc. If she knows she can manipulate you like this now, she will probably do it again in the future. It's her problem you are breaking up, and she will manage a...
by Lover
Sat Jan 12, 2019 4:45 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: clingy girlfriend might catch me cheating, i tried to dump her but she wont leav
Replies: 2
Views: 106

Re: a-jay's journal 2.0

I'm attending an introduction course for my new job, and guess who I will be working with? Juliet, the girl I slept with exactly two years ago. My god, I hate meeting girls from social circle right now. I don't know why my body reacts so emotionally when it comes to her. Sometimes images of our one-...
by Lover
Fri Jan 04, 2019 3:23 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Re: FORUM UPGRADE: Help us pick the new forum logo

First choice #7. Second choice #3.
by Lover
Thu Jan 03, 2019 1:24 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: FORUM UPGRADE: Help us pick the new forum logo
Replies: 31
Views: 2142

Re: How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?

Update: He ended up calling me today instead, asking if I can make it tomorrow. He also asked me to bring my calender - a very good sign... maybe I'm closer to getting the job than I thought
by Lover
Thu Dec 27, 2018 5:26 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?
Replies: 3
Views: 171

Re: a-jay's journal 2.0

So while we're not sure of the exact date yet, Cherry and I are in an official relationship. Only we know about the open part. We've been meeting each other's families for the first time in this holiday, which was pretty chill. The 6 year gap between us doesn't bother any of our families. I knew my ...
by Lover
Tue Dec 25, 2018 7:26 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Re: Attracting People Around Me

Update December Someone who is uncalibrated may: Talk about negative topics frequently and in inappropriate situations - 1 Try to tie unrelated jokes or humor into the conversation - 1 Belittle others or try to make them look bad - 1 Butt into others’ conversations - (didn't have the chance) Not kno...
by Lover
Tue Dec 25, 2018 6:52 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Attracting People Around Me
Replies: 4
Views: 201

Re: Feminists Think Sexist Men Are Sexier than "Woke" Men

Women who find sexist men attractive are not being traitors to other women , nor are they naïve women who don’t understand their choices. Instead, they are women who are making rational decisions, accepting tradeoffs. This quote lacks common sense... or maybe trying to inspire it. I mean, how can a...
by Lover
Tue Dec 25, 2018 6:33 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Feminists Think Sexist Men Are Sexier than "Woke" Men
Replies: 3
Views: 518

Re: How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?

I will definitely make it clear I can only make it the 28th. But besides pointing that out, would it be too much to try and steer the odds even more in my favour? And if no, how can I do it?
by Lover
Tue Dec 25, 2018 4:19 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?
Replies: 3
Views: 171

How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?

Hi gentlemen - merry Xmas to you all ;) Last week I got a call the day before my exam from a work place I had sent a job application for. The guy told me if I could make it the next day, they would like to have me over for a job interview. But I couldn't unless it was after my exam. Unfortunately it...
by Lover
Mon Dec 24, 2018 8:20 am
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: How to handle a possible job interview same day as a huge family event?
Replies: 3
Views: 171

Re: How would you improve Girls Chase?

It would be great if what your post is expressing is true. But these things don't work for every guy. My muscles, dress sense, posture etc. have not helped me one bit. I've had so many bad experiences and I know that it is all down to my poor fundamentals. The most important fundamentals are the on...
by Lover
Tue Dec 18, 2018 10:56 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: How would you improve Girls Chase?
Replies: 18
Views: 1520

Re: a-jay's journal 2.0

Dark red scarf + light blue shirt + dark blue chinos + white sneakers or brown boots = ladies be looking at me all day. I should experiment with more colors
by Lover
Tue Nov 27, 2018 5:13 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Re: Attracting People Around Me

Update Someone who is uncalibrated may: Talk about negative topics frequently and in inappropriate situations - 1 Try to tie unrelated jokes or humor into the conversation - 1 Belittle others or try to make them look bad - 1 Butt into others’ conversations - (didn't have the chance lol) Not know whe...
by Lover
Tue Nov 27, 2018 5:05 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Attracting People Around Me
Replies: 4
Views: 201

Re: a-jay's journal 2.0

Last week, an anonymous girl adds my brother on Snapchat. She asks him if he's really my brother due to the similarity of our last name (which is a pretty common last name here). This creature claimed to be the sister of one of my ex's best friend and, not surprisingly, knew about my past relationsh...
by Lover
Sat Nov 24, 2018 5:51 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363

Attracting People Around Me

It's been a while since I wanted to post here. This time around, I will be focusing on developing socially in order to attract people on the long term. I will get back with a backstory another time. What do I want? Short answer is I want to improve my social life. How? The articles that will help me...
by Lover
Wed Nov 21, 2018 5:48 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Attracting People Around Me
Replies: 4
Views: 201

Re: Are looks really so unimportant?

From what I'm seeing, you're trying to draw the conclusion that because somebody's good looking, naturally they will get the girls to bed. If it worked like that, we would all be handsome from our handsome ancestors. But that is not the case, is it? We all look weird as fuck. Some have big noses, bi...
by Lover
Sun Aug 19, 2018 8:40 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Are looks really so unimportant?
Replies: 24
Views: 1717

Re: Do You Like Anal Sex?

Completely forgot about this. Tried it before the summer vacation - physically, it was pretty much like vaginal sex, except a little tighter. I thought it was somewhat exciting because it was the verboten hole. I'm not completely sure where I stand after one try. Perhaps as lovers, it might not be b...
by Lover
Sun Aug 19, 2018 6:01 pm
 
Forum: Sex
Topic: Do You Like Anal Sex?
Replies: 14
Views: 3354

Re: What's up with people that get "triggered" to become angry?

Thanks Chase, that was insightful! Can you or others following this thread tell me more about the aspect of dodging responsibility in this regard? Especially for hot-tempered people (or people who seem like they are hot-tempered - you never know what is really going on in their lives if they explode...
by Lover
Sun Aug 19, 2018 5:50 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: What's up with people that get "triggered" to become angry?
Replies: 3
Views: 299

What's up with people that get "triggered" to become angry?

This summer has proven to be a funny one. Imagine my surprise when I witness two guys in their 50's lose their shit. This happened on two different occassions with two different men. Afterwards they apologize - or rather, deflect - that they just got triggered to become angry and yell and shout, and...
by Lover
Tue Aug 14, 2018 7:05 pm
 
Forum: Off Topic
Topic: What's up with people that get "triggered" to become angry?
Replies: 3
Views: 299

Re: a-jay's journal 2.0

What a summer. And still not over. A lot of personal stuff happened. I haven't been pressed and stressed this hard for a long time. Haven't felt so emotional. But I have been managing my behavior very well despite the turmoil. Meditation and getting back to the gym have helped a lot!! Having close f...
by Lover
Mon Aug 06, 2018 7:09 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A Lover's Adventures
Replies: 80
Views: 25363
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