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Re: How difficult is finding a girlfriend supposed to be? LP

How do you be persistent without looking desperate or weird? Chase has an article on this, called something like "The difference between persistence and chasing". Go search for it. But intuitively I think you will know. I'm legitimately terrified to talk to pretty girls because I don't wa...
by ray_zorse
Tue May 07, 2019 6:34 pm
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: How difficult is finding a girlfriend supposed to be? LP
Replies: 5
Views: 197

Re: Easier day vs night game?

Night game is much more difficult. the fact that she's gone out IN ORDER TO get laid paradoxically makes things more difficult for you, as her "process" if you like centres around aggressive use of the bitch shield, and screening of weak males, drunks, and general dickheads. The other thin...
by ray_zorse
Tue May 07, 2019 6:44 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Easier day vs night game?
Replies: 5
Views: 137

Re: How difficult is finding a girlfriend supposed to be? LP

There's a lot there so we have to break it down a bit. So I'm graduating college in a few weeks and well I've had two girlfriends my entire life. Both were one month long relationships first when I was 16 then when I was 23. I have hooked up a few times but not with girls I found super attractive, t...
by ray_zorse
Sun May 05, 2019 1:52 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: How difficult is finding a girlfriend supposed to be? LP
Replies: 5
Views: 197

Re: Seeing a girl at work. Hot and Cold. Flaking

Great advice from Lucky and Happydagger, but what really made me smile is the priceless no fucking nonsense approach from Fuck This. Cutting to the core of the matter as usual :) Anyway will be keen to hear about the balancing act with new girl, the drama-free addition to your rotation and expectati...
by ray_zorse
Thu May 02, 2019 10:03 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Seeing a girl at work. Hot and Cold. Flaking
Replies: 13
Views: 360

Re: Cooling Off Period?

This does sound a bit like a girl I talked to in my brief foray into Tinder. I did have hopes for this girl because we had a really cool flirt thing going and lots of teasing and sexy stories and some in-jokes, however, became evasive when suggested to move from Tinder messaging to text etc. So, reg...
by ray_zorse
Thu May 02, 2019 9:51 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Cooling Off Period?
Replies: 4
Views: 102

Re: seduction of american and europe girls in thailand-samui and phangan

Hmm. If you wanted to meet 18-25 women from Europe, USA or Australia then why not move to one of those places, where they will be much more plentiful? You are basically talking about tourist game -- there will be a few solo travellers, some of them female. There will be enormous numbers of groups, e...
by ray_zorse
Thu May 02, 2019 8:43 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: seduction of american and europe girls in thailand-samui and phangan
Replies: 2
Views: 86

Re: Am I cursed or just a dumbass?

Great advice from EP. I also think it might be good to give up the hookers for a bit. Nothing against the world's oldest and most honourable profession. Hookers provide a valuable public service that I believe is underappreciated. Then again -- so do doctors and nurses, but I think we would all agre...
by ray_zorse
Thu May 02, 2019 8:26 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Am I cursed or just a dumbass?
Replies: 5
Views: 199

Re: Possible to start as a loner

I think he meant an authentic matchmaking experience, not autistic? Although I guess it can be read both ways since the lack of social ability could imply autism? There's a very good passage in Chase's e-book about this, I forget the exact wording but it says something like this: "You KNOW you ...
by ray_zorse
Sun Apr 21, 2019 8:40 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Possible to start as a loner
Replies: 5
Views: 183

Re: Need help getting confidence with women

Dude yes that was an excellent outing :) In these kinds of situations it's a sort of a balance between pickup and just bringing the energy and having a good time, you can dance and grind on lots of girls and be the man of the hour, but unless you are focused on the pickup side as well you can be cau...
by ray_zorse
Sat Apr 20, 2019 11:13 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Need help getting confidence with women
Replies: 21
Views: 365

Re: Need help getting confidence with women

I think Adam, that the attitude of "I am totally fine except that XXX" is a kind of denial, it reminds me of exactly myself before GC -- as I WAS good at many things and was a decent conversationalist, etc, so I consciously saw myself as fairly confident and a good catch -- but this was be...
by ray_zorse
Fri Apr 12, 2019 9:03 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Need help getting confidence with women
Replies: 21
Views: 365

Re: Need help getting confidence with women

Adam, if you need a reboot in mental attitudes about women specifically, then this site is perfect. I highly recommend Chase's e-book, an early product of his that I am not sure is promoted or sold anymore, but it really takes things from the beginning and I certainly found this was the best reboot ...
by ray_zorse
Wed Apr 10, 2019 11:41 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Need help getting confidence with women
Replies: 21
Views: 365

Re: Wasted Years - An Old Guy Rant

Firstly, Seppuku's and nad's advice is very good. I could second it from my own experience, I started GC at 37 after long dry spell, some incidents of not being able to get it up through nervousness (the feeling that having a girl in my bed was a once in a lifetime opportunity thus putting pressure ...
by ray_zorse
Tue Apr 09, 2019 11:23 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Wasted Years - An Old Guy Rant
Replies: 6
Views: 232

Re: Need help getting confidence with women

ElderPrice gave good advice. Additionally to that, I think you should study the concepts of warmup and social momentum, there are articles about it on the main site. From what you described, it sounds strongly like you are lacking momentum. The timeframe for gathering and losing momentum can be quic...
by ray_zorse
Tue Apr 09, 2019 10:46 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Need help getting confidence with women
Replies: 21
Views: 365

Re: russian asks: why 90% of the girls in western PUA videos are so unattractive

Good post by Chase, it fits my experience. I live in Australia and find most Australian women unattractive. It's a combination of the factors mentioned. So I moved to the downtown where the population is about 50% Asian (I discovered eventually that I live in Koreatown, although it's not really much...
by ray_zorse
Tue Apr 09, 2019 4:47 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: russian asks: why 90% of the girls in western PUA videos are so unattractive?
Replies: 25
Views: 969

Re: Improvement: went from 18/1 to 3/1 (approach/numbers), new problem arises

I think Hue and ThePhoenix gave very good advice and covered the main points that occurred to me: Going for the number too quickly, I will say more about that in a moment. Awkwardness at the end: I particularly thought the part about the being a pussy was problematic and I think Chase has an article...
by ray_zorse
Mon Apr 08, 2019 10:33 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Improvement: went from 18/1 to 3/1 (approach/numbers), new problem arises
Replies: 8
Views: 282

Re: Is cold approaching dead? Here are my thoughts.

I can understand that a guy feels he has "graduated" and no longer wants to set aside hours at a time for cruising the malls and doing direct approaches, especially if his ROI from online and social is good. HOWEVER I see that as more of a beginner / intermediate way of doing things. Once ...
by ray_zorse
Wed Feb 13, 2019 9:09 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Is cold approaching dead? Here are my thoughts.
Replies: 9
Views: 394

Re: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction

It's a nice little LR :) It shows (1) when you get to a certain level you can disregard more of the rules, such as about breaking the tension before the lay can happen, (2) the pull talk is working for you -- so important that :) I am about to start my dieting and bodybuilding routine again (further...
by ray_zorse
Wed Feb 13, 2019 8:51 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction
Replies: 242
Views: 65337

Re: LR: Basically my first, and from day game!  Robbed by genital mutilation :'‑

Absolutely man. I have had the same experience, I started GC at age 37 with some pretty dysfunctional mental models and having had long periods of isolation. I only started to see results after tons and tons of approaching. If you work hard and smart though, tangible improvements do start to come mo...
by ray_zorse
Wed Feb 13, 2019 6:43 am
 
Forum: Field Reports
Topic: LR: Basically my first, and from day game!  Robbed by genital mutilation :'‑(
Replies: 5
Views: 372

Re: LR: Basically my first, and from day game!  Robbed by genital mutilation :'‑

It's a good report, plenty of detail and plenty of lessons to be learned from it. It sounds like your outer game is quite good -- you're well aware of the importance of frame and at a lot of key crossroads you've made a decision based on GC material and/or experience and it's been helpful in keeping...
by ray_zorse
Wed Feb 13, 2019 12:17 am
 
Forum: Field Reports
Topic: LR: Basically my first, and from day game!  Robbed by genital mutilation :'‑(
Replies: 5
Views: 372

Re: FU: Gay Bar - Unnecessary Claims & Cockblocks

This is a really good report. Many is the time we had all ducks in a row and then did slightly the wrong thing. It is harsh, however, it ensures we do not make that exact mistake again :) :) Points for persisting and trying to make something of it anyway.
cheers, Ray
by ray_zorse
Tue Feb 12, 2019 11:40 pm
 
Forum: Field Reports
Topic: FU: Gay Bar - Unnecessary Claims & Cockblocks
Replies: 1
Views: 89

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

It has been getting time to do my occasional update here, as always the focus is more on making myself the best man I can possibly be, as opposed to seduction literally. I've been planning to write something for a while, but I put it off, as I was not feeling particularly upbeat about things. It's b...
by ray_zorse
Mon Feb 11, 2019 1:07 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691

Re: Best Process to Loose Virginity

That's super duper awesome. Played like a champ! I like the way you turned a problem into an advantage. By the way, look into Love Hotels while you are there. While it is rather difficult to get a girl to go into one, it is a fun challenge that can be achieved and means a super fun time as there are...
by ray_zorse
Sun Feb 03, 2019 3:59 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Best Process to Loose Virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 742

Re: Advice for 35 yo style and newbie assignment

Hey dude, check this post: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=18543&hilit=titanium It starts as a discussion about cold approach styles and goes on to talk a fair bit about fashion and fundamentals. I have given a fashion checklist in my first post which is halfway down the pa...
by ray_zorse
Sat Feb 02, 2019 8:44 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Advice for 35 yo style and newbie assignment
Replies: 6
Views: 197

Re: ElderPrice: From 30 y/o virgin to ?

hey dude, So far I have only read the introductory post, based on the title I had an inkling it would touch on confidence issues and your upbringing, which it did. It always does. The height and the acne thing are extra challenges (for me an extra challenge is that I wear powerful hearing aids), how...
by ray_zorse
Fri Feb 01, 2019 10:19 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: ElderPrice: From 30 y/o virgin to ?
Replies: 134
Views: 2641

Re: How to turn a friends with benefits into a girlfriend?

What we generally teach here is NOT to seek a relationship, instead to keep it as "just sex" for as long as possible, with the (implicit or explicit) understanding that both parties are free to have sex or indeed relationship with others. That is, to keep it as "friends with benefits&...
by ray_zorse
Mon Dec 17, 2018 5:57 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: How to turn a friends with benefits into a girlfriend?
Replies: 1
Views: 77

Re: Early warning: Antifa or SJW will come and hack you, this site has bad secur

I may be in the minority but I really like the current forum SW. I am often thinking how minimal and clean it is compared to a lot of other forums that I use. To me this gives it a modern look so I am surprised to hear it described as ancient etc. A version upgrade would not hurt I guess, but I like...
by ray_zorse
Mon Dec 17, 2018 8:47 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Early warning: Antifa or SJW will come and hack you, this site has bad security
Replies: 13
Views: 955

Re: Advice about dealing with male friend -- NEXT or try to help?

Thanks for the advice dudes. Elias: Yes it does sound transactional but... I basically do what comes naturally, the things I said in my post are my attempt to break down the WHY that doing what comes naturally does not result in a large circle of male friends for me. Well I'm not complaining, as I b...
by ray_zorse
Sun Dec 16, 2018 8:52 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Advice about dealing with male friend -- NEXT or try to help?
Replies: 4
Views: 296

Re: Overcomplicating My Logistics?

I did something quite similar and fucked up at the dinner stage when somehow a dude that we asked directions off ended up joining the dinner... totally kicking myself that I had her ON MY BED and did not try to escalate because I felt it was too early and basically was blindly following my escalatio...
by ray_zorse
Sun Dec 16, 2018 8:05 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Overcomplicating My Logistics?
Replies: 1
Views: 47

Advice about dealing with male friend -- NEXT or try to help?

hey guys, It has been a while since I asked for advice on these boards. Hopefully y'all will have some insights here. As a background, whilst I've previously achieved moderate success with girls, cold approach, dating and process... this hasn't really been replicated in the area of social circle and...
by ray_zorse
Fri Dec 14, 2018 12:40 am
 
Forum: General
Topic: Advice about dealing with male friend -- NEXT or try to help?
Replies: 4
Views: 296

Re: Any advice for a "send off" after your relationship has ended?

Hey Silence, Since there has been a bit of discussion over the thumb issue and the apology I decided to weigh in with my thoughts. My first reaction was that consciously or unconsciously, she was testing you with her drama, and that by apologizing you failed her test leading to a drop in attraction....
by ray_zorse
Tue Dec 11, 2018 10:29 pm
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any advice for a "send off" after your relationship has ended?
Replies: 21
Views: 863

Re: Girlfriend wont have sex

My feeling on the matter is that although she may not be consciously aware of what she is doing, this is about control -- she is rationing you. It comes from a place of testing whether you are the dominating bastard that you originally presented yourself as, or if you are willing to stand aside and ...
by ray_zorse
Fri Dec 07, 2018 10:39 am
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Girlfriend wont have sex
Replies: 8
Views: 410

Re: Help needed! Girl I’m seeing found out about me banging another chick

It sounds like it may be a lost cause, once the damage is done in regards to your becoming needy it's hard to undo that damage. In regards to number of times had sex, I think it would generally need to be 4+ before you could say she is your girl. After sex only 2 times I believe it's still more or l...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 10:54 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: Help needed! Girl I’m seeing found out about me banging another chick
Replies: 3
Views: 139

Re: I whine on this forum because I have no idea on how to get my happy life.

Not having seen the history I can't comment on that, but on this particular post there are some contradictions. You're actually complaining that you have a nice stable job and income, well let me tell you that access to girls who look good and take care of themselves requires you to do the same, and...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 10:32 pm
 
Forum: General
Topic: I whine on this forum because I have no idea on how to get my happy life.
Replies: 4
Views: 187

Re: LR - First since joining GC

On a quick read, the problem isn't what you did, the problem is actually that she changed her mind and effectively rewrote the history after the date. So, if you took her feedback literally you would think you were too pushy, however if you take into account that her emotions changed after she came ...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 10:18 pm
 
Forum: Field Reports
Topic: LR - First since joining GC
Replies: 4
Views: 495

Re: LR: Terrible Date salvaged by Nympho Asian HB9

I must say I do not usually read LRs at the moment but I came here via the post in Tactics, the Asian and the little tits also got my interest up a bit. I believe that the whole art to domination is to pro-act and not react. If she begs you to be called a slut and you call her a slut then that just ...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 10:48 am
 
Forum: Field Reports
Topic: LR: Terrible Date salvaged by Nympho Asian HB9
Replies: 8
Views: 4214

Re: Why seduction is easier when you travel, and best approach

Yes, this is a cool post. I think it is good to try something different from time to time, for me that would probably be online and nightgame which haven't been my preference in the past, even though I dabbled a bit. Seppuku you should dabble a bit in daygame as it may change your outlook (things th...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 9:55 am
 
Forum: Tactics & Techniques
Topic: Why seduction is easier when you travel, and best approach
Replies: 19
Views: 1286

Re: Seeing a Girl with a Troubled Past?

Yes I have experienced this before I got into seduction and it set a really really bad precedent, it becomes all about her and makes the guy want to go all white-knightey. Fuck that. You are correct that you need a clear separation. Her issues are her issues. If she wants to get treatment or whatnot...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 9:38 am
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Seeing a Girl with a Troubled Past?
Replies: 1
Views: 244

Re: Informing A Recent Partner Of An STI?

Good that you tested negative. And based on your other post, the other dude is the guilty party :) As to your original question though, what you suggested is exactly what I did and it went off fine. I actually felt that my value could have been increased in their eyes by just tackling it like a man....
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 9:31 am
 
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Informing A Recent Partner Of An STI?
Replies: 2
Views: 178

Re: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction

I think your instincts are correct with this one. Although it goes against what we have come to accept in seduction (move fast; or the window will close and curiosity turns to contempt) there are some women who are different and also some situations which are different. Otherwise, ordinary guys woul...
by ray_zorse
Sun Oct 28, 2018 9:17 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction
Replies: 242
Views: 65337

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

A quick update. I got rid of toxic business partners. A tipping point was a very critical and patronizing email from my main contact (and ex-friend) which he copied to all partners. Telling someone off and copying others in is a passive-aggressive thing to do. I made a polite reply saying that their...
by ray_zorse
Thu Oct 25, 2018 10:00 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691

Re: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction

Hello broheim, or can I say Dr. broheim :) It is great to see that your seduction life is still going swimmingly and congratulations on the website. I will certainly give it a good read at the earliest opportunity. My interests are also going in that direction. I just spotted this: Either I settle w...
by ray_zorse
Sun Sep 30, 2018 6:47 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Seppuku's Journey into Seduction
Replies: 242
Views: 65337

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

Time for an update...... As to family matters... the plan to separate from my family of origin is progressing although it takes time. Unfortunately I had to stop with my previous business plan (the one I was excited about in former posts) because I decided that using the equipment in my father's fac...
by ray_zorse
Sun Sep 30, 2018 3:58 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691

Re: Direct vs Indirect: Which is best for day approach?

Hmm well it does sound like you have the basics covered more or less, so I might have been preaching to the choir in regards to fundamentals, although perhaps there is still work to do in regards to the difficult ones like the walk, the posture and the eye contact. I think it pays to always be pract...
by ray_zorse
Mon May 28, 2018 10:48 am
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Direct vs Indirect: Which is best for day approach?
Replies: 23
Views: 1060

Re: Direct vs Indirect: Which is best for day approach?

Apart from Richard and cacc's good advice I would also suggest to focus on fundamentals, this would probably be especially important in central London. At a minimum you need some decent trousers, a shirt, expensive or expensive looking shoes, some jewellery (a necklace in say 8mm titanium chain with...
by ray_zorse
Sat May 26, 2018 6:04 pm
 
Forum: Beginners
Topic: Direct vs Indirect: Which is best for day approach?
Replies: 23
Views: 1060

Re: Ambiance's Ascension

Firstly I think your goals are totally awesome, you seem extremely organized and even the fact you are making an honest and realistic assessment of which goals have been attained and how much so, is a very good sign that you take your goals seriously, this is something I am not as good at since I ha...
by ray_zorse
Wed May 23, 2018 8:09 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Ambiance's Ascension
Replies: 64
Views: 4910

Re: Bushido

Hey brother. I started reading your journal from the start and I must say I think you have come a long way in a year. Going from spending several allotted daygame hours too shy to make an approach (something that we have all experienced), to the genuine interest rampage :) And nice lay with the Soma...
by ray_zorse
Tue May 22, 2018 1:36 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Bushido
Replies: 54
Views: 6281

Re: Daily Field Dissection

At some point she radiates under the sun and her immense beauty hypnotizes me. I have to tell her. I try to think of a way to smoothly tell her that, but no answer. So I just tell her. She seems nonreactive as I do. There’s like, 3 seconds of silence and then she reinitiates the conversation. You h...
by ray_zorse
Tue May 22, 2018 1:18 am
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: Daily Field Dissection
Replies: 28
Views: 808

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

Double posting please ignore.
by ray_zorse
Mon May 21, 2018 8:44 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

Hey, thank you so much Mr.Rob and Smith for the heartfelt expressions of support. I took a little time to think about this, and I don't think the Police and this girl's position is quite as ridiculous as you make out, even though I appreciate the support. It is a fair bit more nuanced than that. I t...
by ray_zorse
Mon May 21, 2018 8:44 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691

Re: A ray of light in the darkness

hey guys :) :) First post in a long time. Yes, thanks SG, it is kind of you to write in my journal and it is possible that my maturity level did increase. I remember counselling you to ditch your marriage and pursue game wholeheartedly, but actually now finding myself in a somewhat parallel situatio...
by ray_zorse
Sun Mar 18, 2018 7:30 pm
 
Forum: Journals
Topic: A ray of light in the darkness
Replies: 266
Views: 60691
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